Frustrated
- Alybaly
- keewil9738
- Tery01
- biogardener
- keewil9738
- worriedmom1966
- worriedmom1966
- worriedmom1966
- worriedmom1966
- hollie17
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» Alybaly - Re: Discouraged
Hey guys,this is my first time here and i guess i have a couple of questions. how do you know when you truley have a problem? i guess i was reading about the woman and her daughter and i feel bad because it's not her fault. The only thing you can do is listen and dont judge. I f she feels like she can talk to you, like you're a safe outlet then she has a much better chance. Try not to upstage her, like cutting her off in the middle of a sentence or making her feel like you know how to run her life better than she does. She may have a disease but she got it because there obiously wasnt another choice. She may not seem like she's prepared to make decisions but at least let her feel that you value her opinions. The worst part about this disease is that by appearing sick people feel that it's in your best interest to take over control but i promise you, that's like a death sentence. Take this chance to actually get to know your daughter!
wow...that just came spilling out...i hope it helped
love aly
-- posted by Alybaly
» keewil9738 - Re: Tired of Fighting
In response to message posted by cypress0:I've been reading all of these messages in this room and i cant understand why you guys are having such a hard time getting help in your area. That stinks! What are they waiting on? For you to die?I will say this, it is hard to find good therapy in this field because people still dont know how to treat eating disorders. That's why i will be so glad to get my doctorate in psychology. I am going to specialize in treating eating disorders. My only problem is how can i fix other people when i cant even fix myself? Tell me guys for real, how do we make it stop? Why do i only eat 1 meal every 2 to 3 weeks? I just dont know.
-- posted by keewil9738
» Tery01 - Tired of Fighting
In response to message posted by keewil9738:
My only problem is how can I fix other people when I can't even fix myself?
There is not one single person in this world who doesn't have problems. The number one suicide profession are psychiatrists.
We all help people because we want to. It seems to be easier to help others than to help ourselves.
Sometimes when we help others it does help us in some ways.
I think that it is great that you want to get your doctorate degree in psychology and specialize in eating disorders. This my friend, is your way of helping yourself. So, yes you are qualified to help others
Best wishes and good luck
-- posted by Tery01
» biogardener - To lawstudent
I am not so much concerned about your weight as about what you are eating. A little bit of weight one way or the other really does not matter. It can be quite all right to be underweight, as I was most of my life, as long as you make sure that your body receives only nutritious food with no empty calories.The saltines, for example do not contain on iota of nutrition, just things to make you fat and to interfere with proper blood pressure. Make sure that the little bit you eat contains lots of vitamins and minerals, not just empty calories. Eat some raw veggies, for example. They won't make you fat, but they will help to keep you healthy.
-- posted by biogardener
» keewil9738 - Re: Tired of Fighting
In response to message posted by Tery01:Thank you so much for your words of kindness! I really believe that my destiny in life is to be a therapist. I am 30 yrs old and i just now decided what i want to do with my life, and considering the experience that i have had i think i will make one of the best therapist around.I would also like to make myself available nationwide.I know i wont be the only therapist treating eating disorders, however i'm almost certain that i will be one step ahead of the rest of them!
-- posted by keewil9738
» worriedmom1966 - Re: Re: Re:
Hello there,Imm a frustrated mother of a 15 year old that over this past year has developed anorexia and Im at a loss on how to help her. Some times she eats and sometimes she doesnt and always asks me do you think im getting fat? I just want to choker and at the same time have her see herself through my eyes. She is so beautiful and full of life but its like a lite bulb some days she has a full beam and others she is like a dim setting and I have to say hello are you there? I have taken her to the doctor and also took her to the store to get the things that are healthy and that she would eat and I end up with a rotten fridge. She is 5'7 and 96lbs. I live in sacramento CA and you know there are no support groups available here Im in shock, its like okay in sacramentooare there no other people with this problem? Im very angry and sometimes I get so frustraded I say okay what ever then dont eat you are hurting yourself and then she will make a peanut butter and jelly sandwich and pray she dont get fat and run around our back yard till she cant run anymore. I recentyy have been laid off and their went my medical go figure huh so im in a bind any ideahs. I have totaly devoted myselt to her and my son that is now 3 and since I been home things seem a little diff but her bones are just showing through the cloths. I have been educating myslef through books on this problem but i still like im in a round box.Thank you
cathy
thanks
Cathy
-- posted by worriedmom1966
» worriedmom1966 - Re: Discouraged
Hang in there cypress0, I know how you feel and you know the system and no one wants to be accountable for it. If there is anything I can say or do to make ya feel better let me know as Im just learing myself on how to deal with alote of things with my daughter and her eating disorder. I think that this should be something that needs to be brought to everyones attention and something needs to be done about it. I give you support and hang in there email me any time.cathy
cathy7009@aol.com
-- posted by worriedmom1966
» worriedmom1966 - Re: Re: Re:
Hello Tori35,I am also a mother of a 15yr old girl 10th grader that has fallen as yours did. You cant blaim yourself for this as I have also done. I was a single mother with her and worked all the time and thought it must of been that and that i didnt pay enough attention to her but you cant blaim yourself you must educated yourself on the problem as I am now doing and it helps. Ive read a book called "dying to be thin" by IRA M SACKER AND MARC ZIMMER, THIS BOOOK is really good and help with understanding and defating anorexia and bulimia with a understanding on how to help not only that has a section in there about "for parents, teachers, and friends what you do can really help. get this book as soon as you can or if you dont already have it read it.. If you need anything let me know would be glad to help.
cathy7009@aol.com
cathy
-- posted by worriedmom1966
» worriedmom1966 - Re: Re: Re:
Hello Tori35,I am also a mother of a 15yr old girl 10th grader that has fallen as yours did. You cant blaim yourself for this as I have also done. I was a single mother with her and worked all the time and thought it must of been that and that i didnt pay enough attention to her but you cant blaim yourself you must educated yourself on the problem as I am now doing and it helps. Ive read a book called "dying to be thin" by IRA M SACKER AND MARC ZIMMER, THIS BOOOK is really good and help with understanding and defating anorexia and bulimia with a understanding on how to help not only that has a section in there about "for parents, teachers, and friends what you do can really help. get this book as soon as you can or if you dont already have it read it.. If you need anything let me know would be glad to help.
cathy7009@aol.com
cathy
-- posted by worriedmom1966
» hollie17 - Re: Tired of Fighting
hey gurl..i know no one understands and i once didnt. but why try and see it from their eyes. im just new to this site and starting to develop anorexia and i cant even explain why ...neway just letting ya know i support ya ....and good luck..luv hollie
-- posted by hollie17
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