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Helping a friend
This archived discussion is "read only". « Previous 1 2 Next » » Nicole1986 - My Best Friend has an eating disorder ! My best friend is 16 and weighs about 8 stone, she has lost alot of weight in a short time and eats very little and feels guilty for eating, and worries that if she puts any weight on she will not eat at all ! she knows she has a problem, and we talk about it often but i have no clue what to do, i know i must be there for her but other then that im stuck and worried for her health ! please e-mail me if you have any advise thank you !-- posted by Nicole1986 » GSweet46 - Re: My Best Friend has an eating disorder ! hi nicole! my name is Nermin and I'm gonna try to help you as much as I can. 2 years ago i had an eating disorder first i was anorexic then when people started to notice i just ate in front of them, then throw it up. One time i got caught in action and it was the worst thing. I was lying to my friends (They are the only one who knew) and they were really mad at me they ended up telling my parents and they were just trying to be supportive of me for a while but then it didn't really work cause i happen to be really stubborn. Every one was making me go to a therapist if not a hospital but that's my biggest fear and i promised them that this would be the end of it cause i really didn't wanna go. It was reallly really hard for me as a matter of fact it's been about a year and i still have a hard time with the whole issue. After my friends couldn't take it with that whole issue with me so we would never mentioned it but then i dependent on that one friend and he helped me so much and i love him for it. I was really mad at my friends when it first happened but now i thank them cause i'm glad i stopped before it gets any worse. Just try to talk to your friend and if it doesnt' work tell her that u r going to take her to a therapist and mean it. I hope i helped by any chance. E-mail at GSweet46@aol.com if u want anything. bye and good luck-- posted by GSweet46 » 02madgef - my friend......... my friend is so thin you can see her ribs perfectly and she thinks if she eats like 1 calorie then she will put on 6 stone.i am really worried about her but she won't listen to me and i am her best friend. she wont eat anything. she told me that she doesn't want to eat. she says she is 'FAT'. she told me that she only weighs 3 1/2 stone and shes 12. -- posted by 02madgef » keewil9738 - Re: Where to start helping In response to message posted by alykat1992:IF U REALLY WANT TO HELP A FRIEND WITH AN EATING DISORDER, THE FIRST THING U CAN DO IS BE THERE FOR HER. JUST BE HER FRIEND. DONT PRESSURE HER INTO EATING AND DONT BE BREATHING DOWN HER NECK ALL THE TIME. JUST LET HER KNOW THAT U ARE HER FRIEND AND U ARE THERE FOR HER NO MATTER WHAT. IM AN ANOREXIC MYSELF AND HAVE BEEN FOR MANY YEARS, AND I SPEAK FROM EXPEREINCE WHEN I SAY BEING THERE FOR SOMEONE WITH THIS PARTICULAR DISEASE (AND THATS EXACTLY WHAT IT IS A DISEASE.)IS THE BEST THING IN THE WORLD U CAN DO. I AM IN THE PROCESS OF GETTING MY PHD IN PHYSICOLOGY AND I AM GOING TO BE SPECIALIZING IN TREATING PEOPLE WITH EATING DISORDERS. THE WAY I SEE IT IS WHO'S THE BEST PERSON TO HELP WITH THIS TYPE OF DISEASE? SOMEONE WHO HAS ACTUALLY SUFFERED FROM THE SAME THING. -- posted by keewil9738 » girly2 - Re: My best friend is anorexic. In response to message posted by Kortnie:if it so bad that u think that she could die i would tell someone.... but you would think that someone would have noticed by nowir she's 60 lbs!im going through the same thing with my friend except she is not at that extreme yet... for now we're trying to work it out ourselves bc shes just started ... but if it gets worse she has to go to the doctor bc its her life! u need to tell! she cant be mad at u for telling if shes dead.. just remember this may be your friendship or her life.. she may be mad for a while but in the end she'll be grateful -- posted by girly2 » draculetta25 - Helping my friend I have a friend, a very close friend that I've known is anorexic for some time. I was told this by our college advisor and trusted professor and my friend confessed it to me. She's been hospitalized for it in the past and over this last year had made some progress. But now I live in a different state and she has slid back. It is interfering with her school and her jobs. She has 3 jobs and works herself way too hard. I'm pretty sure that that's part of it. She's just confessed to me again that she has fallen back into it. I've noticed that she seems to respond better if I don't mention food and ignore whether she's eating or not when we're out. But what do I do now?-- posted by draculetta25 » babyangel013 - My best friend's anorexic! I hve no idea how 2 help my anorexic best friend but I can't tell her parent's or any1 else b/c then our whole friendship will be thrown away & I couldn't deal w/ that! It all started b/c her mother told her she ate 2 much but she was so skinny in the 1st place!& she took it 2 sirecly! She told me that she only eats 2 very small meals a day like maybe a granola bar or sumtin'! Also she told me when she looks in the mirror that she sees some1 else & that her stomache doesn't even growl anymore! She only told me about her problem but she didn't want 2 & she doesn't want me 2 discuss it w/ her & that she knows it's unhealthy! I just don't know what 2 do!-- posted by babyangel013 » gracie13 - Re: Where to start helping I'm not sure if my friend has an eating disorder...she hates eating and says she's really happy when she doesn't eat, often skips breakfast or dinner, and when she does eat it's junk, like chocolate, or an iced coffee. She's been trying to lose weight for about a year, but says it keeps fluctuating. She's scared to get on the scales. She's naturally thin, and I'm not sure it's healthy for her to lose too much weight.In response to Where to start helping posted by alykat1992: -- posted by gracie13 » confusingworld - I'm so confused! I suspect my friend has an eating disorder. She's 12, is 5 ft. and weigh's 68 pounds. i know that is underweight, but its hard for me to believe that she could have an eating disorder at so young.She never eats a lunch at school, and sometimes she comes to school very depressed and quiet and won't even talk to me about it. Also, she will never eat food in front of her parents, and only a few of her close friends have seen her eat anything at all, and if she does eat, it'll be something very unhealthy. Also, sometimes if I'm at her house, she'll spend a lot of time in front of her mirror sucking in, and pulling her shirt tight against her skin, and sometimes she lets little comments slip that she thinks that she is fat. Her clothes mostly consist of large sweatshirts, . Once, she was over at our house, and we were having pizza, and everyone was pressuring her to eat it (I know now that was the wrong thing to do), and she ate like half of it, and almost as if she couldn't hold it, she ran to the bathroom and threw up,leaving the door ajar, and was embarrassed and withdrawn the rest of the day. I haven't noticed any dramatic weight loss, but her eating habits make me worry, because she is also from a very stressful family situation. I am very concerned, but don't know what to do! I'm worried to tell her parents because they see her every day and don't seem to do anything about it, and they haven't been very supportive of her ever. please help me! -- posted by confusingworld » ImCoolYo - yeah.... I'm 13. My sister is 17. She's about 5 months pregnant and she acts like she could really care less. I love her to death but she puts a lot of stress on me. Like the fact she has no job and could care less. Well I'm not sure why I'm writing this, but food is on my mind 24/7. I've visited a few sites tonight about eating disorders and I find a lot of the symptoms and things are just how I feel right now. I'm really confused about every thing in my world right now. I just got in a fight with my friends and had to find new ones, who I can tell don't really like me. I find myself not wanting to talk to anyone and looking in my mirror a lot a lot. I really don't know what to do and there are times I just want to throw up but I can't. I just need to talk to someone who knows how I feel because right now I feel like no one does. Also a friend of mine is constantly on my back about "how much i eat" I want to eat I just have no appitite at all anymore and I don't know why.-- posted by ImCoolYo « Previous 1 2 Next » Please follow the guidelines set forth in the Suite101 Posting Etiquette when adding to the discussion. |
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