He's 17 years older than me?

Top 2. Jun 30, 2003 12:37 PM

» THB17 - Re: Am i missing something.

I am in a very similar situation and have been looking to speak with someone who might understand. I am married and 43. She is a single mom at 27. We have talked about the very same issues, marriage, relationships, sex etc. I think I feel very strongly that I want to be with this woman in a marriage. For us...we have only been dating for three months. In answer to your question...if I had been in a relationship with her for as long as you have been in your situation and still feel that way...without a doubt I would do what was necessary to be happy.

Perhaps you can enlighten me as to some of the things you feel and how you are dealing with your current situation.

-THB

-- posted by THB17

Top 3. Apr 21, 2004 9:45 PM

» LP77 - Re: Am i missing something.

In response to message posted by Missy73:

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Top 4. Apr 21, 2004 9:55 PM

» LP77 - Re: Am i missing something.

I hate to pop your bubble but I know what I'm talking about. I am 54 & my husband is 69(he's one day + 15 yrs older) We've been married almost 17 yrs. The first 10 yrs were wonderful, but the past yrs have been a living hell....he's aged, became senile, stubborn, & sexually dysfunctional. We don't have a life together, let alone a sex life!!I don't believe in divorce, nor does he, so looks like its a waiting process to see which one of us dies first!!

-- posted by LP77

Top 5. Jul 14, 2004 1:21 PM

» tracy04 - Re: Re: Am i missing something.

I just got out a 8 year relationship with a men who was 15 years (he is 46) my senior and I am missing him terribly. Although, I felt I loved him I always felt hesitant to marry him mostly because of our age difference. Many times they confused me for his daughter, we didn't have couple friends, his ex-wife and kids constantly interfered, etc. Luckily for both of us we didn't have any children. I guess I never really loved him unconditionally, although, I wonder why I miss him so much...
In response to message posted by LP77:

-- posted by tracy04

Top 6. Jul 31, 2004 4:34 PM

» sail234 - I hear you

I too am in a huge age gap relationship. A 27 year age gap. Since I have been with him my family no longer speaks to me. We have lost many friends because of it. We love each other very much and are an excellent pair. Besides family and friends opinions we don't notice the age gap. We are aware of the huge effects that the age gap has on our relationship, and relationships with others. But we are happy together and will not let that stand in our way.

-- posted by sail234

Top 7. Nov 16, 2004 7:35 AM

» RMJ04 - Re: Re: Re: Am i missing something.

In response to Re: Re: Am i missing something. posted by tracy04:

I am new to this forum. I am 22 in a relationship with a man who is 47. No one has ever made me feel the way he makes me feel. I never ever pictured myself loving someone who is so much older than me. But it happened. He is divorced but has no kids (a good thing). We have been thinking about our future together but are dealing with the same age gap issues we all deal with--our spouse dying way too soon, parents not accepting the situation, having kids, etc... BUT, after reading LP77's posts i am really scared!! Anyone else feel the same?

-- posted by RMJ04

Top 8. May 5, 2005 9:58 AM

» CrissyD27 - Re: Re: Re: Re: Am i missing something.

In response to Re: Re: Re: Am i missing something. posted by RMJ04:

Honey I am right there with you. I am 22 and my boyfield in 40. He was and still is my oldest brothers best friend. I used to tell my family as a child that i was going to marry him, everytime I seen him. He is divorced and has a child 10 years old. I think that me and his son get along pretty good. His friends and my family have alot to say about the relationship...and I can't stand it. We've been together for about six months and i can't wait for the day that he proposes to me. Nothing could get better in our relationship. He is scared, he feels that he's taking away a big part of my life, and the more that i try to tell him that if anyone should be scared it should be me,(and I have nothing to be scared about) he's more understanding. Some people with age differences turn out great, and the others don't. It's better to have loved good then not loved at all. You can't base your relationship on someone else's. It's what's in your heart, and in his. The communication is also a key factor.

-- posted by CrissyD27

Top 9. Jul 15, 2005 6:36 AM

» moriact - Re: Am i missing something.

In response to Am i missing something. posted by Missy73:

Hey! I have a new forum I created for people in age gap realationships!

check it out!
The May Darlings Forum

-- posted by moriact

Top 10. Oct 24, 2005 11:23 PM

» Alana15 - Re: Re: Re: Re: Am i missing something.

In response to Re: Re: Re: Am i missing something. posted by RMJ04:

I am in currently in a relationship with someone 27 years my senior. Before I met this man I was with somone three years older than that. My first relationship caused a lot of uproar with my family, particularly my mom who was key in ending it. Surprisingly my mom has since become much more fond of my first boyfriend and is now saying she was more comfortable with him although she has shone no malice to the new guy. I have only been in this current relationship for a couple months and I am enjoying getting to know him better but I often regret letting my mom come in between me and my first. I think if I have learned anything from the whole experience it is that these things take time. Family and friends will learn to accept it but probably will not let on to it right away. My advice is if you love him, go for it. Once they see that your happy they will understand. The most important things seems to be to help everyone understand that you are safe and not putting yourself in a position you are not entirely comfortable with. Many of peoples worries come from their wanting to protect you. Just let them know your more than ok, your happy, then live your own life.

-- posted by Alana15