What's The Attraction?
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- Sandman111
- barbfromca
- steveital
- Lee5
- Trishella
- consolamentum
- Suzanne888
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» Sandman111 - Right On!
I am a young man dating an older woman. She is everything I want. Fun loving, Young at heart, Able to take care of herself, above all...mature. As an individual, I am very indepent, driven, stong willed..the stong quite type. She is the first person I have dated and we have been together for almost two years now. Why the first?? Simply put..I date women..not girls. I am 21 she is 41. When we meet people they mistake me for 27 and her for 33+. I grew up fast and she looks young..everybody wins.In the realtionship we have very distinctive roles. I am the leader, the shoulder, the dominator but at the same time the sensitive lover. She is the people person, the one who is always honest with herself, the emotional energy of the relationship, and one who trusts me enough to follow.
We have always had an almost freakish link from the first time we met. Call it what you like but we call it our "soul link".
Anyways..Society can think what they want, joke how they want, and live like they like. We have something rare and precious..called "true unselfish love".
Peace
-- posted by Sandman111
» barbfromca - Re: Right On!
I read your post from March 13th and I just want to say that you couldn't have explained it better! I have a similar situation. I am 55 and seeing a man who is 36. No one, including my 26-year-old daughter, seems to want to understand that we have a wonderful and supportive relationship. The roles you describe that you and your woman friend have are very similar to ours. Although I am 55 and very independent myself, I love to feel the strength, physically, mentally and emotionally, that comes from my 36-year-old lover. He is so much more than my lover; he is my soul mate and we are incredibly connected. I was married for 32 years to a man I met at 19 years old, we have a wonderful daughter together and are still the best of friends although we're in the process of getting a divorce. I realize now what a relationship can be like when you connect with someone so totally. I commend you for following your heart and I intend to do the same. My friends and daughter seem so worried that I will be "taken advantage of" or "hurt" by my friend, but in reality, he is the kindest, most sensitive, loving man I have ever met and although we may not be together forever (although I hope we will be), knowing him will always be a positive experience that I will value forever. Good luck in your relationship. You sound like a very very mature 21-year-old man!-- posted by barbfromca
» steveital - nice analysis
I am married to a woman 6 years my senior-in this case she is extremely attractive (from Venezuela) with always many men interested in flirting with her. She is traditional, a 5 star 'chef', and very feminine. On the other hand she has 3 children and while caring very much for them there are still many conflicts of interest, some age related, but more related to the step children issue (way too much responsibility for me), PLUS I love women and love to flirt (my problem, I admit)...but I liked the article very much. And we did meet on the internet.-- posted by steveital
» Lee5 - Re: Re: Right On!
In response to message posted by barbfromca:In response to Barbfromca in March 2002. I myself met a woman aged 53. She has three children who are all grown up and she is divorced.
I am 31yrs old and can relate to earlier article (March 13th )and to barbfromca
I had been in a previous relationship for 12 years with a partner 2 years my junior. Plus two children of 10 and 5.
We could not connect much more to the fact that it made me unhappy and I pined over the decision to leave. This also involved my
Meeting this woman who was much older than me. She gave me a different feeling and made me realize that I have found my true Soul Mate. We have the same interests and have many circumstances that have been similar. I have wondered in the past on what people would say and also react. But when you have that feeling within your heart you know that it is right.
I guess you cold possibly tell that she is older than I am but she looks well for her age and is in good shape and seems to be more of 30yrs old rather than 53. I seem to be the one who is 53. I find myself much more mature.
I Like to stay in instead of clubbing every weekend. Also going to restaurants instead of going to the pub with my mates. I just enjoy a quiet life.
I think this web site is really useful for someone thinking to enter a relationship with an older person. My advice is if it feels right then go for it.....You only live once!
-- posted by Lee5
» Trishella - older women/younger men
Hi,I enjoyed reading your writings. My husband and I have been married four years this coming June. We are incredibly happy! Every day I am grateful for having him in my life.
We are now 48 and 23. I was married previously for almost 24 years, but even though I loved my first husband...it just wasn't THIS kind of happiness and YES, connection...and feeling SO loved, cherished and wanted!
My divorce was hard on my children (now 21 and 17) but at least they learned despite difficult times in a person's life...you can emerge on the other side happy and well.
Yes, some people have to gossip....but who is anyone to judge anyone else? I am not interested in others' opinions. They are not IN the relationship and have NO clue!
If you never take any risks in your life....you will never grow!
I will never regret the decision to be with my present husband. He understands me...KNOWS ME.
Enjoy your lives together...as I know you will.
Trishella
-- posted by Trishella
» consolamentum - That's it!
I am a thirty year old male, and I have a wonderful relationship with a 42 year old woman since nine months. We were both somewhat concerned about the age difference at first, but since then we've found that we are perfect for each other. This article basically says it all - it puts words to all the age-related advantages we've foundin our relationship.-- posted by consolamentum
» Suzanne888 - Re: Right On!
In response to Re: Right On! posted by barbfromca:I am wondering if you are still in this relationship. Does it still continue and would you do it again?
-- posted by Suzanne888
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