Sharing: Following the Internet to Romance
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- biogardener
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» Car - Me, my friends, and I
I'm not the only Internet couple I know of. I have several friends who have also "made it work". Their stories encourage me each day, just as we encourage them.But not all of the stories had a happy ending. My one friend, after being with his ex-wife, separated because of the Internet. When they had finally moved in together, they found out they had each changed. He started spending more and more time on the Internet. And in the end, she blamed his time on the Internet to their breakup. They are to be divorced and aren't talking with one another any longer. 
-- posted by Car
» annej - internet romance
It seems to me the key in making sure a marriage will work has to do with spending plenty of time together first. In your case you had a lot of real life time together.I've followed different friend's online romances and a couple of marriages. Plenty of time spent together in person seems to be the key.
-- posted by annej
» WordCharmer - Internet romance
I am terrified right now because one of my daughters, who is married but unhappy, has met someone on-line. She confided that she's actually thinking of meeting this person clear across the country in secret. Not only that, but she tells her husband that this person is her "girlfriend" and she needs to get away to think. She assures me that there would be no sex, only two people meeting to see if they really are "soul mates." I don't know what to do. I've always thought she was a level headed girl, but this frightens me to death! Any suggestions?-- posted by WordCharmer
» Car - tough one...
Oh... this is a tough one Susan. Honestly, knowing from my experience, she's going to go regardless of what you say. Accept that much. The best thing you can do is assure that she remains safe.Ask her to take along a friend that she trusts. Is there a close girlfriend who could come with her? There is some safety in numbers.
Ask her what her hotel is. Make sure you have that written down somewhere. Make sure she HAS a hotel and not just staying at the guy's place.
Ask her for a picture of the guy that you can keep untils he returns. Ask her for the guy's name and number.
I don't know if your daughter is anything like me... but you could try to ask her to call each day, just to let you know she's okay.
Anyone else have advice?
-- posted by Car
» Car - more advice...
Asked a couple more people, these are some tips they added on (along with a couple more that sparked into my head)Ask your daughter to meet this person for the first time in a public place (not his house or her hotel room). This is harder since she's not familiar with the place she's going to (I'm assuming). I would recommend doing a search on the Web (yes the power of the Internet) to find restaurants or malls nearby her hotel and have her meet up with this guy there first.
Make sure she has her own transportation, rental car or whatnot.
Go to AAA and get her some maps of that area she's going to so she can find her own way around.
Anyone else?
-- posted by Car
» biogardener - Valentine event
This is another article I would like you to submit to the Valentine event.I wrote an article about a woman who got engaged to be married to a man after making cyber and telephone love to him for hours daily for almost 4 years. Here is the sad story of how it affected her own life and that of her children.
BTW, the man was married and she knew it but refused to consider the implications. She was also aware that he was a big liar, but that didn't bother her either, because she was a pretty good liar herself, and she was even better at advising him on how to get rid of his wife.
-- posted by biogardener
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