Obsession / Obsessive Thinking Part 2
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- femfree
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» seadreamer1978 - Thank You!
I concentrated so hard on obsessing on past traumas, (attempting to heal my wounds without professional help) that I reawakened to a horrible form of PTSD. I was so unresponsive and out of it a old paradigm psychatrist diagnosed me with schizophrenia and dosed me heavily with antipsychotic drugs, and couldn't understand why I didn't get any better. As a despairate measure, I started going to therapy, where I learned I had an extremely high score for co-dependency, and although I have only been working on it for a little less than a year, I already feel much better, and have life to live and goals to achieve instead of past worries to live my life by.-- posted by seadreamer1978
» joy2meu - Re: Thank You!
In response to message posted by seadreamer1978:That is great seadreamer. So often the mental health system does react to symptoms of codependency without having a clue as to how to heal the cause. It is great that you followed your intuition and went to therapy with someone who could help you start focusing on the cause.
Robert
-- posted by joy2meu
» femfree - Re: Re: Thank You!
In response to message posted by joy2meu:The article on obsessive thinking has raised some questions with me about how I am interpreting this article. I know I have some co-dependency traits, but they are actually very mild. I am not a dependent type at all. My relationship was with a psychopath (bi-polar, narcissistic, borderline, AsPD and behaviourally sado-maso (not sexual). Also, he had a son who is a psychopath. That son is what I called 'pure evil'. Anyone who has encountered these people knows what I mean.
My concern about the article is that it's not a normal trait to have obsessive thinking. In fact, I think in situations like mine that it is completely normal to develop some degree of obsessive thinking. I've taken many, many online tests and I always come up with 'mild depression' - absolutely nothing more serious than that. My marriage to this man lasted 6 months. When I put a stop to the controls he had in my life, it was him who ended the relationship. His behaviour was so off base and completely disproportionate to the disagreement at the time that I was left devastated at his actions (ending the marriage and leaving) and in trying to learn about his bi-polar and many other disorders I developed obsessive thinking.
I ran a medline search on obsessive thinking and it seems that if we try to stop doing it, it just gets worse and that by demystifying the object of the obsessive thinking - which in my case was my husband and his disorder(s), that it does resolve in time. This, in hindsight is true. Eventually it did resolve. It just kind of left one day.
When normal people are in a very abnormal situations where they are completely unprepared for what happens and with no understanding of what is going on in their lives like I was, is it not possible for people to develop obsessive thinking and not have any co-dependency issues? From my time on discussion boards dealing with narcissistic/borderlines/AsPDs and their targets, it seems that obsessive thinking is quite common.
I believe that obsessive thinking occurs when normal people are thrown into devastating circumstances. Any thoughts about this? I do love the article and it is linked from our MSN website on coping with a psychopath.
Regards
femfree
(financial & emotional freedom)
-- posted by femfree
» joy2meu - Re: Re: Re: Thank You!
In response to message posted by femfree:femfree,
I define codependency in a larger context than you have probably encountered previously. I believe that codependency is rooted in our relationship with ourselves that is dysfunctional because of being raised by wounded people in an emotionally dishonest and dsyfunctional society. So, normal is codependent in my view. I would invite you to visit my web site http://Joy2MeU.com/ if you would like more information on my perspective.
Robert
-- posted by joy2meu
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