Wei Yin Wong's BlogPosted by Wei Yin Wong Many people assume stay-at-home mums have lots of time to themselves, my husband included. The truth is, homemakers never have enough time. Because these mums don't toil outside the home, many people assume they have all the time in the world to wash up, cook, watch the kids, mow the grass, drive the kids around and worse, run errands for busy relatives and friends! I'm fortunate that I don't have that many friends and relatives asking freely for favors here. But I know a few stay-at-home mums who get bombarded by calls from supposed loved ones who always seem not able to run their own households. And these relatives have the audacity to feel upset when their requests for help are politely turned down. Still, the ability to say no politely is one of the best and most effective time management skills any stay-at-home mum can have. Sure, it never helps to lend a helping hand to others. But when a mum has to care for her children and do scores of household chores at the same time, it's only fair that she be left alone to do her tasks. It never amazes me how inconsiderate some relatives and friends can be, requesting for, nay demanding, help when it's clear such demands should never have been made in the first place. There are many other ways to manage time efficiently. Planning things ahead always helps. So do cutting down household chores, getting the spouse and older kids to help and keeping things organized at home. For more time saving tips, read also my following articles: Time Management Tips for Stay-at-Home Mums Becoming a Time Efficient Stay-at-Home Mum Organizing Time Effectively for Full-Time Mums How to Save Time While Food Shopping Posted by Wei Yin Wong Motherhood is tough. That’s why it’s important for mums to be part of a sisterhood. And the best place to find that sense of belonging is a suitable mothers’ group. After all, where else can you rave and rant about your daily encounters with baby burp and poop without being given a funny look?
In many developed countries, mothers’ groups are everywhere – community centers, libraries, playgrounds, churches, baby health clinics, baby gyms, breastfeeding association, etc. And there are groups with different themes catering to mothers with a diverse range of interest. Can’t find a suitable group? Start a new one! The Internet is packed with plenty of resources and ideas. The local community center will be able to help out too. Spread the word around the neighborhood. I wish I had found a suitable mothers’ group when my kids were still babies. Alas, I didn’t try looking since I was busy working full-time in those days. Plus, mothers’ groups were hard to come by where I came from. But I certainly advocate new mums to join in a group. This is particularly important for stay-at-home mums. Having good adult company regularly after being cooped up all day with wailing and noisy kids will be good on the body, mind and soul. Want to know how mums' groups can benefit you and where to find them? Read my series of articles on mothers’ groups here.
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Managing a Mothers' Group Posted by Wei Yin Wong All kids look forward to school holidays. After all, these are the best times to experience fun things out of the house. However, each time a child steps out of the house, many dangers await. Well, that's not to say there are no hazards within the home. It's just that there are a lot more unexpected risks whenever we leave our familiar comfort zone. That's why parents must give children's safety priority at all times. There are a few basic things to remember each time the family heads for an outing - giving children enough sun protection, keeping them hydrated with plenty of water, bringing healthy snacks, supervising them at all times, arriving early at their destinations to avoid the crowd and teaching them relevant safety rules, depending on where they are holidaying. We just came back from a short skiing trip. Yes, it's July but here in Australia, it's also winter time. So we headed for the Alpines for the very first time, not having seen snow prior to this. Fortunately, I did a bit of research before driving up to Mt Buller, our ski holiday destination. We had a lot of fun and managed to come back in one piece depsite not having even touched a ski pole before! The point is that parents must be prepared for any sort of emergency when they are out holidaying. For more ideas, read my following articles. Going to the Ski Resort with Kids Posted by Wei Yin Wong Before I had any kids, I used to marvel at parents who traveled everywhere with young kids. I couldn’t comprehend the trouble they must have gone through to ensure everyone get to their destination in one piece.
Then my kids came along. For a while, I was a prisoner in my own home, traveling only to and from my workplace. I hardly ever ventured out of the house with the kids. The only trips we had were trips to the doctor! But we had to get out more often and to more places eventually and that’s when I learnt how to prepare the kids for long hours in the car or the plane. Kids get bored easily. So the most important thing is to find ways to keep them amused. Small toys, snacks, singing, playing “I Spy” and frequent stops are useful. Of course, the little ones do get tired and sometimes will sleep through most of the journey. If you’re flying with the kids, then you’ll have to start planning early – ask for bassinets and child’s meals when booking your tickets, prepare them for jet lag, check in at the airport early, pack spare clothing and kids’ necessities in a hand luggage and get ready for the unexpected. Being mentally prepared for children’s antics on the plane can certainly help you stay sane!
During the flight, make sure the kids get enough sleep. If they feel restless, ask them to wiggle their toes and walk up and down the aisle. Make sure they don't disturb the other passengers, though.
And if a little one throws a tantrum, just do your best to calm her down. Don't worry too much about annoying your fellow passengers. You are expected to have a bit of a problem when flying with a young child. Plus, you most likely won't see those people again after you disembark. So don't sweat over it! As long as you make the effort to soothe your baby, all will be forgiven and forgotten. For more travelling tips with kids, read also my following articles. Posted by Wei Yin Wong Although Father's Day is celebrated in the month of September in Australia and New Zealand, it is celebrated on the third Sunday of June in most Western and Asian countries. As I write this, there are no promotions or Father's Day special events in Melbourne. But I know my sisters back in Malaysia are probably planning something nice for Dad. So are friends in Canada, the United States and Britain. However, I notice the event is relatively more low-key compared to Mother's Day. For some reason, Father's Day is not celebrated with the same enthusiasm as Mother's Day. Well, the media will feature some items regarding dads and their contribution and shops do have specials to mark the occasion but the mood just isn't the same. It's as if dads somehow don't deserve the kind of honor and respect that mums tend to garner. Still, deserving fathers should be revered at all times, not just on Father's Day. There are loads of unusual gift ideas out there. You don't even have to spend a fortune on some of these gifts. But if money is not an issue, the possibilities are limitless. Google will be able to help you find anything if you use the right keywords! For more gift ideas for Dad, check out the following articles. Unique Father's Day Gift Ideas |