Divorce and Women - Losing Your Friends

Posted by Christina Gregoire Jun 4, 2009

When a woman loses her friends, during (or right after) a divorce, she will always have some person say, "Well, they weren't your REAL friends, if they didn't stand by you."

But, you know... they were your friends. You just don't have as much in common with them as you did before. You can't plan a joint vacation, where both of your families rent a cabin at the beach. And, you will feel odd going out to dinner with your friend and her husband, even if you have a date.

You, also, have lost half your money, so you probably won't go shopping at the mall, together.

Anyway, I firmly believe that people from your former, married life, were your friends. They probably still are, on some level. However, it's time to make new pals:

That is why I wrote this: Women Need to make New Friends After a Divorce. I hope it helps you. And, I want you to know that after my divorce, I found two friends who were a great comfort to me.

One gal was super social and knew everyone in town. She was divorced from a local bigwig, but her husband found a good lawyer and left her with nothing but bills. My other girlfriend had two daughters who were in the same school as my kids. It was all years ago, but one of the MOST important things for a woman to do is to find one girlfriend to talk to.

Oh my gawd, it makes such a difference.