Divorce and Infants

Posted by Christina Gregoire Sep 24, 2009

As sad as it is, for a couple to divorce when they have an infant, I believe (based solely upon my own observations) that it may be better to divorce when your child is young.

I was unhappy in my marriage, for years, and I was planning on sticking it out until my kids were in college but it didn't work out that way. I think my kids were 11 and 13. It was a horrible age for them to go through a divorce.

On the other hand, my niece was an infant when her mom and dad separated and that is the only thing she has ever known, so she's fairly well adapted to her situation.

Don't get me wrong. I am not telling people to get a divorce when their children are babies. Oh my God, I hope that no one's children ever have to live through a divorce and the aftermath. I tell people to stick it out and not get a divorce unless there's abuse, alcoholism, drug abuse, or some other terrible problem within the marriage.

I believe that divorce is just terrible for kids. It is great for the adults, but terrible for the kids. And, I know that sometimes divorce is the best option, but the kids really don't have a say. The kids didn't get to choose their parents.

I think that, for many children, it must be like living in a war zone. Of course, I've never lived in a war zone... but for a kid ... that's how I think they view it.

And, that's the reason I like to write about divorce. I want to help people and their kids. That's all I want. If my articles don't sound right to you, let me know. If they are helpful in any way, I've done my job.

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