Dealing with Differences

Posted by Rhonda Langefeld Oct 12, 2006

Two great books are making the rounds in my circles. For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men, by Shaunti Feldhahn. And...For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women, by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn.

What I like about these books, beyond their extremely helpful and thoroughly researched information, is how positive and encouraging they are about the differences between the genders. There's a lot of respect and appreciation for both men and women in these pages. And, in describing male/female differences, the authors don't assume all women are the same or all men are the same, either.

What we have in these small, highly readable volumes is the opportunity for hours and hours of great discussions with our spouses--over coffee, over lunch, or on a special overnight getaway. Reading just one chapter together in either book gives one spouse the chance to ask the other, do you agree with what the author just said? How much are you like that? How are you not like that? There's nothing like gaining a deeper understanding of your spouse for building love between the two of you.