Stages of Change and Eating Disorders

Posted by Jeannie Delahunt Jan 23, 2009

I would specifically like to address this blog to the concerned parties of loved ones suffering from either eating disorders or addiction.

There are stages of change. Recognizing them can give some clues as to how to cope with each stage. Also, the help of trained professionals is highly encouraged.

The first few stages (see above link), involve loving encouragement - letting the sufferer know that he or she is loved, that the concerned parties are worried. Gently reflecting back to the sufferer the nature of their condition is one means of handling resistance. Having lots of informational material lying around, in the bathroom, or on the bed (in the bedroom), gives the sufferer a chance to read without everyone looking. Especially during the first stage of change (precontemplative), you don't want to address the problem head on. You will be met with stubborn refusal and resistance.

Remember there are two active voices working. One voice is the healthy voice, however, that is being pounded down by the eating disorder or addiction voice. You want to appeal to the healthy voice. It is there, despite the bravado the unhealthy voice is portraying.

Also remember, that eating disorders and addictions have payoffs. You are hoping to shift the payoffs in your favor, not to appease the eating disorder or the addiction.

This is especially difficult coping with teenagers. They are so vulnerable. With their youth comes lots of energy that they will pour into keeping the eating disorder or addiction, especially if the payoffs are fantastic!

Seek out support professional help and support groups. Hearing what other concerned parties are coping with can help reasure you that you are not going crazy! Plus, you may learn some tips as to what has worked for others. Connect with the professionals in your area where eating disorders and addictions are their focus of expertise.

God Bless! :)