Healing From Sexual Assaults

Posted by Jeannie Delahunt Jul 22, 2009

One of the most devastating as well as rewarding aspects of my counseling career was when my clients were attempting to heal from addiction and sexual assaults.

Devastating? Only the victim of a sexual assault can know the full devastation and despair that occurs when one's framework of trust and faith in humanity is grotesquely violated and sometimes violated repeatedly through acts of sexual violence. To observe the depths of pain and how the tentacles of it permeate all areas of the victim's living arenas is heart wrenching to say the least.

Rewarding? The healing process to me is truly spiritual and magical. Human beings, despite intense, severe pain can be so resilient! To have witnessed the healing process humbles me. To all those victims/survivors who placed their trust in me, to help them in their recovery was a great honor. I will go to my grave holding you all up with the utmost of respect and dignity.

When I say magical, please know that I do not mean this as whimsical, nor do I mean to diminish the tough work involved in the process. How the healing process happens is a wonderment to me. How people can turn pain into a solid foundation and wisdom is beyond remarkable. There are no words to describe this process in a way that would do it justice. However, in comparison, it may be likened to witnessing the glory of a snow-topped mountain range, or a sunset or sunrise resplendent in colors. Or, stepping out in the evening when the sky is jammed with stars! Tears can be turned to joy!

Is the healing process easy? Based upon my experience, it is not. It is work. But the rewards are fantastic! Will healing hurt? Sometimes, taking out a splinter is painful. But when the splinter is removed, relief follows. The pain diminishes.

Yes, the healing process can be exceedingly painful depending upon many factors. For each victim/survivor the process is different.

If, dear reader, you have been a victim, take back your control! Take back your power! You owe it to yourself to get help and experience the rewards of healing and peace. Don't let your attacker have any more of you!

Again, a word of caution - please do not use self-help books without the assistance of a trained, licensed professional. Trauma of this nature often consists of repressed memories and emotions. To proceed on your own is honorable but could cause more damage and trauma!

Blessings!