Jul 15, 2009

Q: How Do I Get Over My Ex-Boyfriend?

Getting over your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend can feel endlessly painful and heartwrenching. A reader asked this question -- "How do I get over my ex-boyfriend and move on?" on my Signs of Depression article.

Getting over an ex is something many people struggle with! It can take years to really heal from a separation or divorce. If you're struggling to get over someone, you're not alone.

This reader's relationship ended a year ago; she hasn't healed because she still talks to him! She needs to make a clean break and be free. If she had done that when they first broke up, her heart would be much stronger now.

To get over an ex, you have to cut off all contact (unless, of course, you have kids together). The less time you spend talking or seeing each other, the quicker you'll heal. You also have to focus on new things in your life: new friends, new hobbies, new classes, new vacation spots.

I can't write a whole article about getting over an ex-boyfriend here, but I can offer a list of articles about letting go of the past, surviving heartache, and moving on. There's some great info here -- plus, many of the articles have reader comments that you might find helpful!

I hope one of these articles is helpful to you, and I welcome tips for getting over a breakup below!