How Do I Convice My Husband I'm Faithful?

Laurie Pawlik Kienlen, Psychology Feature Writer, Bruce Kienlen

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Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen
Oct 12, 2009

A reader asked how she can convince her husband that she's faithful, on my Resources for Emotional Infidelity and Cheating blog post. She's has not cheated on him in six years of marriage, but he thinks she's been unfaithful.

Here are a few suggestions for convincing her husband that she's faithful, plus links to articles about emotional cheating.

How Do I Convice My Husband I'm Faithful?

Figure out the roots of his suspicions of cheating. Why is he so prone to believing you're cheating on him? Perhaps he was betrayed or hurt in the past by a parther, or his parents cheated on each other. Or, perhaps he doesn't feel worthy of a strong, healthy marriage. Identifying the cause of your husband's suspicions and distrust can help him learn to trust you -- but he has to be willing to think about his past.

Determine if your husband has mental or emotional health issues. If your husband accuses you of cheating with people you don't recall meeting (such as his coworkers), then there may be deeper, more problematic emotional issues to deal with.

Suggest marriage counseling. A counselor can give you an objective perspective on your marriage, and help both you and your husband see how (or if) you can save your marriage. A marriage counselor might also help your husband see that his suspicions of you cheating are groundless -- or coming from a different fear or experience.

Consider the idea that you can't convince your husband you're faithful. Sometimes people believe what they want or need to believe, and they can't be convinced otherwise. If you've been trying to prove your fidelity or faithfulness for years without success, then it may be time to think about the idea that you won't be able to do it. Maybe it's time to consider leaving your husband.

If you're willing to work on your marriage together, you can convince your husband that you're faithful. Read 10 Ways to Improve a Bad Relationship for a helpful ways to save your marriage.

More articles about marriage, relationships, and love affairs:

I hope this helps, and that your husband can learn to trust and cherish you -- and stop believing that you're cheating on him!