Perspective from the newly 30 on dating & relationships!

Posted by Joy Huber Jul 23, 2006

I have been doing a lot of reflecting on "my 20's" as that time came to a close and what I learned and what can be applied in "my 30's," a new decade that I'm theming with "fresh starts."

Of primary importance, I'm grateful to be 30 and still dating. I realize I changed so much from 20-29; wow! I definitely understand why people grow apart over time. Just the changes each individual goes through as the years roll by are staggering!

I learned a lot about myself, and most importantly, I learned what I need in a partner relationship vs. what I thought I wanted in a partner. As previously mentioned, I changed and what I really need in a companion has drastically changed. It's not about looks near like it used to be, because regardless of facial characteristics, body type, etc. he can't possibly continue to look exactly that way as time goes on. 30 years from now though someone who is easy to talk to about anything, a great listener, romantic and considerate, and my best friend will ideally still be, even though his hair will gray or fall out, and wrinkles will form in his skin! :)

I have also figured out that despite what everyone who has called me (and possibly you too if you're adding candles to the cake and staying single) an "old maid," or over the hill or whatever has said, an insurmountable brick wall did NOT drop permanently separating me and the institution of marriage when my 30th birthday came. I have not married yet, but I still have the option to do so at any time. I may next year, or I may when I'm 41. I may when I'm 83! Or not at all.

I'm rather enjoying dating and meeting and learning about people. I may apply my knowledge learned throughout my 20's in the dating world vs. the marriage arena for quite a few years yet to come. Dating is Fun!

Have a Great Week!