Cherie Burbach's Blog
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Men and women are different creatures. They look at relationships differently and it should be no surprise that they have different reasons for cheating. What are they? Here are a couple articles to help you out:
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I get asked a lot about the positive and negative aspects of online dating. Let me tell you, I've used Internet dating and for the most part it was a wonderful experience. I have my stories (like anyone!) but I do think it helped me meet more people than I would have on my own.
More than that, however, it introduced me to people that for whatever reason, I had not met before. That doesn't mean that singles don't still need to be cautious, however.
If you're wondering about Internet dating, I've got two articles that may be of interest. Check out the Pros and Cons of Internet dating and decide if it's the right method of meeting people for you.
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It's fabulous when all the hard work you do gets some nice recognition. That's the case today, as the Suite101 Dating Blog just got a favorable rating from Date Daily.com. They said, "The advice on Suite101 is honest and practical, and if you’re interested in writing articles for the site, you can."
They also mentioned that the best part is the "Feature Writer." I'll take that as a compliment!
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I always think it's interesting when someone famous writes a book, especially when they write about relationships. Jennifer Love Hewitt is the latest celeb to do so.
I like Jennifer, or "Love" as she is sometimes called. I think she's smart girl with a lot going for her. But a dating book? Just because you haven't been successful in meeting the right person yet doesn't mean you should be doling out advice. I'd rather take advice from someone that's done it and has succeeded in meeting someone. Then, I'd like to find out how they went about doing that.
In Jennifer's case, I think she'd be more suited to write about all those famous guys she's dated! Wouldn't you like to know the details in those relationships?
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Just caught a note in People that said Jon and Kate are celebrate their 10th anniversary. What a huge triumph for any couple! It is very sad that the two are experiencing problems of late, but perhaps they will still be able to work out a happy ending.
What do you think?
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I caught this article on Yahoo that listed the best places for young singles today. If you live in Boulder, Colorado, congratulations! You are in the hottest singles city in the U.S.! (At least according to this article.)
Of course, anywhere you live can be the BEST place for singles. I think a lot of it depends on attitude, don't you? No matter where your address is right now, remember to keep track of a few things in your town that will help you date a little bit easier.
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Britney Spears is now dating her agent. It seems like she just keeps choosing these inappropriate people to date, doesn't it? First she dates a guy that she really likes (Justin Timberlake) but they both lie about having sex.
Then, she marries a childhood friend for about five minutes, only to move on to a guy who was taken (Kevin Federline.) Then she dates a paparazzi, and now her agent.
If her agent can truly work in her best interest and keep their romantic life out of things, more power to him. But you know, the thing about love is that it's never that simple.
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On again/off again couples.... do you know a few? I just heard that Leo DiCaprio and his gorgeous gal Bar Refaeli are off. Again. Leo seems to have a lot of those relationships.
There are times when taking a break can be a good thing. More often than not, however, if a couple breaks up and makes up more than once (meaning that they broke and up and got back together repeatedly - say twice or more) it means the two of them are probably not meant to be together.
Taking a break can be good only if you understand the reasons for the separation. If you both are just sick of each other or fighting all the time, taking a break will only prolong the inevitable.
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So have you heard the latest with this LeAnn Rimes stalking accusation? It's hard to believe, isn't it? You may wonder why a celebrity wouldn't give a closer eye to the things they were doing, but when you're in love, I suppose, crazy things can happen.
Whenever I hear of a situation like this, it reminds me about unbalanced love. Unbalanced love occurs when one person totally devotes themselves to their partner, to the point of blocking out every other thing in their life. While being in love is great, having an unbalanced love affair is not. One person will always get hurt. More than that, an unbalanced love affair is not really love.
Have you ever had an unbalanced love affair? How did you recognize that you were in a bad situation?
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I caught this quick article on Sandra Bullock, and it immediately caught my attention because she was talking about her husband, Jesse James. I think a lot of people were surprised at him on Celebrity Apprentice. He had great ideas, and we were all judging the book from its cover. I thought he wouldn't have much to say and wouldn't do that well on the show. I was totally wrong.
Bullock told People that, "I think most of us are raised with preconceived notions of the choices we're supposed to make," says Bullock. "We waste so much time making decisions based on someone else's idea of our happiness."
Very well said! Do what makes you happy. More importantly, find the person that makes you happy in life, and don't settle.
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Do you remember Jen Schefft from The Bachelor? She got engaged to Andrew Firestone on the show in 2003 and then broke up. Then she went on The Bachelorette.
Now, she's married. And her husband, Joe Waterman, is absolutely adorable. She talks about waiting for the right guy and not settling at People. I second this advice wholeheartedly! Never jump into a relationship with anyone, not even if you are lonely or feeling like you're getting old. There's nothing worse than marrying someone that isn't right.
A lot of people ask me what it takes to find quality people, and I give them the advice in this article. I think it takes patience, faith, and certain behaviors that let your partners know you aren't in the dating game for something casual.
What do you think? What's the best way to determine someone you're with is worth your time?
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Katie Couric gave the commencement address at Princeton on Monday, and joked about her "cougar" status. A cougar, of course, is any older woman who dates a younger man. Couric's boyfriend is 33. (She's 52.)
There was a show a few years ago that helped popularize the term "cougar." It was Age of Love. Remember? I loved that show! It prompted me to write the article, "Does Age Really Matter in Dating?"
I think that age can make a huge difference in a relationship in many situations. However, if both the woman and man know who they are and what they want out of the relationship, it can work. But it takes a special couple of people in order to make it work.
What do you think? Does age matter when it comes to the dating world?
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Let's face, it life (and love) is hard enough, without having to do the whole "reality show thing." The latest blip in the reality show world is the relationship between parents of eight, Jon and Kate. But they certainly aren't the first.
Remember Nick and Jessica on Newlyweds? They were cute and funny, but they were also vulnerable. Nick has said about their show that "Jessica and I began playing these parts even when we were by ourselves." In other words, they didn't know how to act once the cameras were off.
I wrote about Nick and Jessica in my article, "Love Lessons from Celebrities." The way I saw it, Nick and Jess failed to leave and cleave, meaning that they brought the public into their relationship during a very crucial time. Statistically, the first three years of a couple's marriage are crucial to bonding. Often the rest of the marriage will be determined by how well the couple learns how to deal with adversity, family issues, and challenges from friends during this time. Doing a reality show when you're newlyweds is really not a great idea.
I'd think twice before going on a reality TV show. What do you think?
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Conversation
For the shy at heart, first dates can be a jumble of words wanting to come out by sounding a bit lame! It's true! How about some advice on what to say and not say on a first date?
Etiquette
Need a brush up on how to act so you don't embarrass yourself? haha - Yes, I think lots of us can use that!
Do's and Don'ts
Sometimes the easiest way to ace a first date is just to have a list of what to do and not do. Of course, men should be focused on slightly different things than women.
Date Ideas
Where to go can be a tough question for a first date. After all, you want to keep the conversation and activity light, while also allowing enough time to get to know each other. Here are some great first date ideas. Of course for my money, the coffee date is still the best bet for a first meeting!
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Looking for some ideas for Valentine's Day meals, dates, gift ideas, etc.? I'm here to help!
Here is a collection of articles sure to help your February 14th be the very best.
- Being Single on Valentine's Day
- How to Celebrate Valentine's Day All Year Round
- Valentine's Day Gift Ideas
- Romantic Music for Your Date
- Plan the Perfect Valentine's Day
- Creative Valentine's Day Meals
If funds are short, feel free to check out these ideas for a frugal celebration: