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Many times I'm asked if Internet dating is safe. My answer is that it's as safe as just about any other way to meet someone new. You have to be smart and use your head. You shouldn't assume you know the person just because you've emailed them.

Still, whenever I tell people that Internet dating worked for me they ask me about the issue of safety. If you're one of the folks curious about ways to improve the safety factor with regard to your online profile, here are some tips for you.

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I don't know about you, but I really like winter... sometimes. I enjoy getting out in the cold from time to time and doing fun things like throw snow balls at my mate or even make a snowman.

Other times, I like to hibernate. Stay in and watching a bunch of movies in a row.

Whatever your attitude toward winter, there's a date idea to match it. Don't let the cold weather stop you. With a little creativity, you can have a unique date unlike any you've had before. Here are a few ideas to get you started.

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Dear Dating@Suite101:

I’ve been seeing this guy for a few years now, and I’m very happy. In fact, we’re getting married in a few weeks. My question is: I’m kind of obsessed with another guy I used to know. I haven’t seen the guy in several years, although I do call him from time to time. I sent him an invitation to my wedding and he never sent back his response. Still, I want him to come. I want to see how he’s doing. Is that so wrong?

To put it bluntly: YES, it’s wrong. You’re getting married and you’re hung up on a guy that you haven’t seen in years? You say you call him from time to time, but that doesn’t mean the guy cares about you. You don’t say whether this guy was a serious relationship or passing fling. I’d be willing to bet it was a passing fling.

This guy isn’t going to get back to you. He isn’t responding to your invitation because he doesn’t care. He probably rolls his eyes every time you call. Forget about him.

The real question you need to ask yourself is: why hang on to an unhealthy fantasy when you’re getting married in only a few weeks? Consider your answer long and hard before you go through with your wedding. The guy you’re pining over probably has a happy relationship, while you on the other hand are getting married while your head, heart, and maturity are off somewhere else.

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Dear Dating@Suite101.com:

My boyfriend and I have been dating for two and a half years, and I’ve met his family on severeal occasions.

The problem is, every year he hems and haws about holiday plans. He can’t even tell me whether he wants to spend time with my family. I never know what to tell my family until the last possible minute. Sometimes he wants me to come along, and other times he’ll tell me no at the last minute. Then I hang out with my family but I’m bummed because I can’t be with him.

I’ve tried talking to him about this but he just shrugs. What can I do?

He won’t make plans. Sometimes he wants you to come with, other times not. But he makes all the decisions and you just go along with it, even if it means disappointing your family?

Honey, this guy either has another girlfriend or just doesn’t give two figs about you.

What can you do? Tell him you’d like to plans for the holidays. If he shrugs, say nothing and make plans with your own family. If he calls at the last minute (because he’s bored or suddenly decides he doesn’t want to deal with his family alone) tell him you tried to make plans with him but he refused to talk.

Then hang up. Have fun with your family. Focus on the people that love you so you’ll remember what it feels like. Then find a guy that makes you feel loved… not like you’re the consolation prize.

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Are you bummed out with your online dating experience?

I work with many frustrated Internet daters who've all but given up when it comes to finding their soul mate online. But it doesn't have to be that way. Often it only takes a few tweaks to make your ad stand out from the rest. Here's how.