Advice on Christian Dating

Posted by Brian Tubbs Oct 3, 2007

How should Christian singles approach the "dating scene" in today's culture? Here is what, I believe, the Bible has to say to that question:

1. The Bible teaches that, in every area, we are to "trust in the Lord" and "lean not unto our own understanding." Rather, we should let God "direct our paths." (Proverbs 3:5-6) .
2. This brings me to a major question: What is your motive or objective in dating? Is it to have fun? Build your self-esteem by saying you have a "boyfriend" or "girlfriend"? Or is it to find the person that God has in store for you?
3. Marriage is a God-ordained institution. It is a good thing for men and women to marry, and we should prepare ourselves for that chapter of our lives - and make sure that what we do before marriage doesn't hurt our marriage once it comes.
4. When it comes to any serious relationship, Christians are not to be "unequally yoked with unbelievers (II Corinthians 6:14). This doesn't mean Christians should be stand-offish or elitist. This is simply common sense! The Bible teaches that, in marriage, two become "one flesh" (Genesis 2:24). If the man and woman disagree on something as fundamental as Christianity itself, becoming "one flesh" (truly ONE flesh) is all but impossible.
5. Everything we do is to be to God's glory. Is your dating/social life glorifying to God? Are you living in obedience to God (particularly in the area of purity)?

The above principles should help you navigate your time as a "Christian single" in preparation for Christian marriage. If you would like more information, please check out the following...

"What is True Love?" from ChristianAnswers.net

"What are Spiritual Disciplines? Striving for Godliness" by Melanie Lamprecht