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Celebrating Your Sexuality

© Alyssa Skye

Although our country and our world has come a long way since the puritanically oppressed days of the Victorian era, we are still faced with messages from various venues which lecture about the immorality and wrongness of sexuality. To combat these narrow minded views, I will be dedicating the next several articles to a celebration of women's sexuality with an emphasis on various techniques aimed at enhancing pleasure and sensuality beginning with an overview of a woman's body and erogenous zones.

First of all, it is important to note that skin is the most prevalent erogenous zone on anyone, male or female. Not only can skin-to-skin touching be extremely arousing to the individual being touched, but it is also a good way to convey intimate feelings for the person doing the touching. If you've never experienced the pleasure of touch, try this: while either partially or fully naked in a quiet setting where you won't be interrupted by outside distractions, let yourself touch your partner all over his or her body. Use a variety of techniques such as feather-like touches alternating with light scratching motions or deeper massage. Don't concentrate on the housecleaning or work or anything other than enjoying your partner's body and getting to know it better. After a while, switch and allow yourself to enjoy the feeling of being touched all over by someone who cares for you.

While anywhere on a woman's body can become an erogenous zone, the most obvious of these places are her breasts and genitalia. A woman herself or her partner can enhance arousal by stroking her breasts. Focus for a few moments on the nipples, alternating between caresses and pinches. Some women might find a greater enjoyment in having her nipples pinched or bitten or even having clips placed on them. Other women don't experience as deep an arousal by attention on the breasts. Try to be aware of your partner's desires when touching her breasts. Look for nonverbal as well as verbal cues.

A woman's genitalia is called the vulva and consists of the labia majora, or outer lips, the labia minora, the clitoris, the urethra, the vagina, and the anus. To discover these areas on your partner or on yourself, sit comfortably with a handheld mirror to see the different areas. Stroke your outer lips gently. Find your labia minora, or inner lips, and your clitoris which is located where these lips join together at the top. As you increase the touching and your level of arousal heightens, you will notice that your clitoris becomes erect and firmer. Often it is more pleasurable to use some form of lubricant applied to your clitoris if you are masturbating or your partner is performing clitoral massage on you. Some women, however, find that their clitoris becomes too sensitive to be touched directly as they become more aroused.

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