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Society's Sexual Confusion

© Alyssa Skye

Modern society is riddled with confusing messages on a variety of issues. For example, while watching a television show in which the attractive protagonist dangles a cigarette from a nicely manicured hand, a commercial depicting the true dangers of smoking will suddenly be broadcast. Which do people tend to believe? The portrayal of a fictional character who lives happily ever after or the horrible statistics of the many people who die each year from cigarette smoking?

Perhaps the most confusing messages surround the issue of sexuality. Everything from sit-coms to the movies to commercials shows images of sex and sexuality with the underlying impression that sex is normal, natural, and acceptable. On the other hand, we read news accounts of religious groups or others who are defiantly trying to squash the teachings of sexuality and safe sex in schools. Pictures of the "moral majority" are shown waving self-proclaimed immoral books of literature in the air before throwing them on a fiercely blazing bonfire, reminiscent of the days of Hitler and McCarthy. Their message is that sexuality and the enjoyment of sexual feelings is wrong, against the law of god, and bad for humankind.

With these images flashing all around us, it's no wonder that children grow up confused and conflicted about sexuality. Females, especially, are treated to a double dose of puzzling information. Many of us grow up hearing that "good" girls don't let boys have sex with us and that it's a sin to masturbate or enjoy the feelings that are a normal part of being human. A majority of girls never learn that the only purpose of the clitoris is to provide sexual pleasure.

Eventually, when these women enter into an intimate relationship, they will be faced with a huge conflict within themselves. On the one hand, they will believe that to let loose and be wildly passionate during intercourse will depict them as a woman of poor morals. On the other hand, they will be yearning for the stars and explosion version of lovemaking which saturate modern novels and romance stories throughout the world. The ironic thing is that to experience the latter type of sex, women need to let loose and just enjoy the sensations coursing through their bodies rather than worry about being labeled as a whore.

These conflicting messages given to females from a very young age are perhaps one of the major factors in the high number of sexual dysfunctions experienced by women today. Perhaps if a woman was taught that these feelings are perfectly natural and good for her, then our society wouldn't need the pharmaceutical companies to increase their research into products and drugs which will enhance sexuality and decrease sexual problems.

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