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The room is full - yet I feel alone

© Tina Helm

Loneliness is defined as 'without companions, alone'. However, in relationships, this is often not the case exactly. We women go through bouts of loneliness when we are firmly entrenched in a working relationship.

Perhaps that is not completely accurate. Maybe it's the working part that is out of place. Many women are comfortable in their relationship. They may not be happy. But, they are not unhappy overall. Their partner is nice. They enjoy friends and time together. They are comfortable and do not have a strong desire to disrupt that comfort.

Internally at times though, a woman may feel lonely. Going through her day with people all around her and still feeling sad or desolate at the end of it.

Take stock of when you notice that you feel this way. Keep a little log (mental or otherwise) of when the feeling seems to hit. Is it the same time of day or in certain situations? Once you know when something happens, you can begin to look at how to address what is causing it to happen and change youbehaviorsviours and responses.

I liked the following informational articles and thought you might find them useful too.

This first one is from a gay male point of view. Why on earth did I include that? Well, because gay men get lonely too. The point is that we all have moments like this. It is not a female 'thing'. It is a human thing. http://gay.loversguide.com/content/artic...

What causes fear of rejection and fear of being alone? That is the topic of the next link. This article gives an objective clear behaviorsme behaviours we exhibit that we can change within ourselves. Whether we are in a relationship, or not. http://frtstevensb.edu/tstevens/c-rejct....

The next article was taken from Cambridge University. Again, college students get lonely too. Outside of that, this article is just to show that this is a normal feeling that occurs during normal stages of one's life. What we do about it is completely up to us as individuals. http://www.counselling.cam.ac.uk/loneli....

My suggestions: -Find something that distracts you for the times that you are feeling lonely. Something that you enjoy. That takes you away from from the internal dialogue. This is not something you should 'every' time this feeling comes up. It's something you should do when you can not think clearly about the causes andbehaviorhange your behaviour.

-Confide in a friend. Someone that recognizes that you may not desire to make changes in your life. You just want somewhere that you can share your feelings about the relationship and get support for feeling that way. Someone who will not judge you for your feelings, but will let you know that they are normal feelings and how they deal with theirs.

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