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Sex and Sexuality© Tina Helm
Sex as defined by http://www.dictionary.com is:
1. The property or quality by which organisms are classified as female or male on the basis of their reproductive organs and functions.
Sexuality is defined as: 1. The condition of being characterized and distinguished by sex. 2. Concern with or interest in sexual activity. 3. Sexual character or potency. Many people think that when you talk about sexuality, you are referring solely to sex. There are so many other factors to take into consideration. There is intimacy, romance, communication, fantasy, reading, writing, desires, emotional security, bonding, bending, compromising, sharing, learning, growing and so much more. Sexuality is made up of so many pieces that make a person whole. Knowing more about yourself and your sexuality will make you a happier, healthier person in the end. And, it will aid you in maintaining happy healthy relationships with others. The biggest key to this journey is communication. You must be able to self-communicate. (accept and be able to articulate things you find within yourself.) For how else will you be able to communicate your desires to another person if you can not recognize and articulate things within yourself? Once you are comfortable thinking about things you desire for yourself, you can then begin trying to express those desires to another person. It can be very difficult sharing your desires with another person, especially if you are concerned with what they might think of you or how they might react. The biggest step to this is allowing them to respond in a manner that they are comfortable with doing. If you express yourself to them in a way that does not put them on the defensive, but simply state your desires to them. They are likely to surprise you in their reactions. Some wonderful places to find information on sexuality are: http://www.sexuality.org/ http://sexuality.about.com/ http://www.positive.org/ http://www.ejhs.org/ http://www.sexualityandu.ca/eng/ http://www.sexscience.org/ http://www.altsex.org/ Each of these sites offers the reader information on an aspect of their own sexuality. In one, you might learn the benefits of new sexual positions or toys. In another, you may find health related concerns addressed. In still another, there is education and information about alternative 'lifestyles' that may peak your interest. Even if the sites do not have information that appeals to you. I have always found it interesting and educational to learn about what other people are doing. You may find that in reading something you would never think you would be interested in doing, you suddenly find the thought arousing. That does not mean that you will, or should, rush right out to do whatever that thing may be. It just means that it's brain fodder for later fantasies.
The copyright of the article Sex and Sexuality in Women's Sexuality is owned by Tina Helm. Permission to republish Sex and Sexuality in print or online must be granted by the author in writing.
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