Mommy Wars

Motherhood is a very important part of being a woman. Somewhere along the road of life, every woman has to make the choice if she wants to be a mother. Whether the answer is yes or no, it's normally a choice that a woman holds to be very important for her.

Sometimes a woman isn't able to make that choice because she can't biologically have children. However, it is possible to still be a mother by adoption or by taking advantage of the technological advances in reproduction therapy. Even if a woman doesn't use those choices, she can still be a mother figure for children who need that role model in their lives.

We live in a world that fortunately has given more freedoms to women. Women are able to have a career and fulfill their life dreams. These new freedoms have also meant changes in the role of women. No longer are women limited in their choices. They have options that those before them never did. This also means that many women have to live multiple roles in life. Not just as a wife or mother, but also as part of the working society that for so long has been dominated by men.

With the emergence of new roles for women, it has brought on disputes over the traditional roles of women. There are those (men and women) who feel that women should stay at home full time, and that motherhood and being a good wife should be their primary goals in life. There are others who feel that if a woman makes that choice, then she's turning her back on the abundence of the other choices she has and that she is just falling back into the stereotypical world where women are dominated by men.

These disagreements in motherhood choices for women have developed into what has been coined the "mommy wars". Each side believing that they are right and the other is wrong. Each side not taking the time to understand what the other side believes or to understand that point of view. Has this been productive for our children? Has this made their homelives with their mothers better? Not at all. All it has done is add bitterness between women who make different motherhood choices.

A stay-at-home mother is not necessarily a better mother than a working mother. Each woman has her own personality and characteristics that she takes into her role as a mother. There are many women who are able to be wonderful mothers and have a full time career life. They can juggle those two roles in a profitable way so that their family doesn't suffer and they are able to follow their lifelong career goals.

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