I think it says a lot about a woman if she feels comfortable enough to openly "show and tell" about her sexuality. At the same time, I think it says a lot about a woman who decides to keep her sexual life to herself and maybe not be as daring. Neither is better or worse than the other, they are just ways of expressing yourself.
Isn't that one of the things that the women's movement is all about? Women feeling free to express themselves no matter what a man tells them. To me, that's what it's about. Women have been trying for hundreds of years to let their voice be heard, whether it's politically or socially. Sexual expression is just another way women are able to make a statement about themselves.
Today, it isn't that odd to walk into a sex toys shop and find a single woman shopping for that perfect vibrator. Nor is it rare to find another woman lecturing in colleges about the importance of abstinence. Again, these are all ways that women are expressing themselves.
Some of you may be familiar with the old medival ways of "testing" a woman's virginity. In those days, a woman was judge to be a good wife on whether or not she was a virgin. If didn't bleed on her wedding night, it was assumed that she wasn't a virgin and she was then labeled as a "bad wife." Her worth was measured by her sexual practices (or lack thereof).
One of the things that has always bothered me about this is that a women's virginity seems to be more important than a man's. It is expected for women to be quiet little virgins until the day they find the perfect man. For men, it's fine to be sexual promiscuous. In fact, teenage boys are known to gloat about their first sexual "conquest." If a teenage girl were to do that, most likely she would be labeled a slut — and most likely she would carry this label for a long time after high school.
Another interesting little note about virginity in general is that it has always been described according to the heterosexual norms. A woman loses her virginity when she has been penetrated by a penis. So what does that say about lesbian sex? Is a lesbian (who has never been with a man) then a virgin her entire life? I'm sure that a lot of lesbians would adamantly say no to that.
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