I felt like that for a long time. Never thought that I would be weak or would know anyone who was so weak that they would let another person hurt them like domestic violence does. I was wrong.
This past summer, one of my close friends was in an abusive relationship. At first we were all charmed with her boyfriend. He was kind, clean-cut, friendly and good looking. Everything you would want to see in a friend's significant other. We didn't see the real him. We missed out on his controlling side. The side that can't see anything except how the world affects him. The side that felt it was ok to go running after my friend and put her life in danger.
As if that wasn't enough, she went back. After all the times he hurt her, or almost hurt her, she always went back. We would have late night chats and I was sure that she wouldn't go back. I was sure that -this- time, things would be different. She would realize that no one deserves to be hurt, physically or emotionally, just because someone else disagrees with the way they dress. I was wrong.
She did luck out though. Eventually, she did leave him. I don't think I have ever been more proud of her than at that point in time. She finally stood up and made the statement that her feelings did matter. She got out before he ruined her life.
Like I said, she was lucky. Every day women are the being beaten by the men who claim to love them the most. And every day, they go back to those men. Or, they die. As morbid as it may sound, it's the truth.
Many people wonder how women can keep on going back into abusive situations. Honestly, I never understood it myself till I saw it through my friend's eyes. People, by nature, like security. They don't like too much uncertainty. Women in abusive relationships are just like any other person. They feel stable in the relationship. They know what to expect and they don't suspect that it could eventually lead to death.
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