Helpful Hints for Healing After a Tragedy

The terror and tragedy of September 11, 2001 has affected each and every one of us. Even if you weren't affected personally, the tragedy may have left you thinking of ways a tragedy could affect you or your family, or ways to change your life just in case a tragedy does occur in your life. Some of you may be afraid to go back to work, unable to concentrate, profoundly sad, or having problems sleeping and eating, and may even be incapacitated by grief, plagued by nightmares and flashbacks. The extent and consequences of the emotional after-effects depends on a number of things - how close we were to the horror, whether we lost loved ones, our age and personality, and whether we have been traumatized in the past. Whatever our reaction, it is important to realize that there is no "normal" response to a catastrophic loss. Only time can heal us. Everyone will heal in their own way and at their own pace. Symptoms of emotional stress vary and can appear immediately after the event or days, weeks, even months later. Keep in mind the following tips as you continue to help yourselves and others heal.

Talk. People who have experienced tragedy need to work through their pain. This may mean telling your painful story over and over for days, weeks, or even months.
Listen. Make yourself available to listen. Try not to solve a problem or offer solutions. Refrain from offering opinions. And do not ask them to look on the bright side. Just listening is healing.
Be consistent in seeking and offering support. While many people adjust within weeks of a trauma, other people who witnessed a terror or lost family and friends can take longer to heal. As time passes and reality sets in, the sorrow and fear often becomes worse for these individuals. Call, visit, and write often to continue showing your support.
Seek the company of others. Go to church or other social gatherings. Some people in pain will withdraw. Encourage them to get out. Research shows that people with a strong social network heal better than those who are isolated.
Get involved. Volunteer to help at the American Red Cross (1-800-GIVE-LIFE) or other charitable organizations. If you can't give time, donate blood, needed supplies, skills, or money. Helping others can be extremely therapeutic and gives people a sense of purpose in a time of uncertainty and sorrow.
Reestablish healthy eating, sleeping, and exercise habits. In such stressful times our immune systems break down making us more susceptible to illness. Eating a well-balanced diet and getting adequate sleep is more important now than ever.