Relax and Enjoy

My life has finally settled down so that I can again dedicate time to doing articles for Suite 101. I apologize for my abrupt departure and failure to let everyone who reads know. Since my last article, I have experienced a dramatic life change. I moved from Nashville, Tennessee to Bellevue, Washington. During all the events leading up to this change, I found I didn't have time to do the things that I encourage everyone to do. Writing for Suite 101 is one of the things that I love to do for myself. Sharing and learning from other people's lives helps me to not repeat unhealthy behavior.

As you know, my articles focus on women and relationships. The most important relationship that any woman has is the one with herself. That relationship is the one that is the first to be ignored and abused. Most women externalize their entire existence to meet the needs of other people. Its is so easy to get caught up in the lives and needs of other people that you as a woman cease to be important. We become our duties. Don't get me wrong there is nothing wrong with loving the things you do for others, but you have to make time to enjoy things that you like too. Reading a book, watching a movie, doing your nails, something that you do for no one's pleasure other than your own.

When I moved from Tennessee to Washington, I learned some things about myself. The first of which is, I worry about how other people are going to get along without me taking care of them. I preach self-sufficiency and I feel self-sufficient. I just don't think anyone else in my world can be. I don't know whether it hurts me or makes me feel good to know that life in Tennessee is going on without me. My opinion has always been that it is the responsibility of parents to prepare their children for adulthood. We teach them how to survive but do we ever really feel like our job is done? The point of it all is that I learned that even when I am taken away from the majority of my responsibilities, I can make myself miserable feeling guilty.

When I first moved, I woke up every morning worried about how things were going 2,400 miles away. Instead of enjoying my time off from work (I had leave time that cover it), I worried. I have worried for 46 days straight that I could have been relaxing and enjoying life. So, I have now stopped worrying -- of course I start a new job on Monday. (ha ha) So, I had been saying for six months that I needed some time off from work to relax. Be careful what you ask for because when you get it, it can be scary. So, take some time to relax and enjoy life. Pamper yourself and cultivate that personal relationship you have with you. When you get stuck in a room all alone you want someone nice to spend that time with.

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