First, realize and enjoy having a good friend. If you don't have a good friend, do yourself a favor and make one. There is no more satisfaction in the world than to be loved and accepted for who you are. Unconditional love is the most refreshing experience possible. We get so caught up in trying to be something special to someone else we lose ourselves in them. When you have a true friend, you get to be loved and accepted for just being. All that you are, all your dreams, all your hopes and yes, all your faults are part of who you are. A true good friend accepts all those things and loves you for them.
Second, a significant other has to have the same qualities you would chose in a friend. If you don't like the person you are dating (I've said this before in another article) you don't need to be with them. Love someone who deserves your love. Love someone who can love you back the way you need to be loved. Don't settle. You have a choice. No one is stuck with their life style. You can change your lifestyle if you are not happy.
My final point for this article is, Never under any circumstance sacrifice your personal happiness for the happiness of anyone else. Don't just read that and say yes I agree and I won't. Live it. No one, not your children, not your husband, not your friends not your relatives should control your personal happiness. You love and accept others for who they are and they have to do the same. If your friends don't love who you are, change your friends. Now I know what your thinking, I can't change my relatives or my children. You don't have to. But you do have to find a way to be happy and make as many concessions for yourself as you do for others. Go out of your way to be happy.
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