Loneliness and the Holidays

The holidays are a stressful time. Even if you are alone, it does not have to be a horrible experience. Pamper yourself if you are alone during the holidays. It is a fantastic time to devote a lot of energy to appreciating the one person you are closest too--you. There is much to be said to quiet alone time. You can shower or bathe when you want, dress or undress when you want, and all without fear of interruption.

A good relationship with yourself is vital to defeating loneliness. You never want to be with a partner just because you don't want to be lonely. The end result is regret and pain. If you are in a relationship with someone you are not really happy with, but are afraid to leave for fear of being alone--you should seriously evaluate your personal feelings. There are problems that must be solved from the inside. Regardless of how lonely or fearful you are, there is nothing that will make you truly happy until you are happy with yourself. When you find yourself alone, holidays or not, use that time to do things that make you happy.

Rent a movie you have always wanted to see, conduct research online at Suite101.com, call a friend you haven't talked to in a while and catch up, read a book without being interrupted or anything that brings happiness solely to you. You might even consider helping others to help yourself. Volunteer for a charity or at a local church or school. If you are the financially conscious type, you might consider a part-time job, save the money and take a cruise with a friend. The options are endless if you do not limit yourself to being emotionally disabled when you are single.

There is nothing wrong with enjoying alone time. As a matter of fact, the ability to enjoy time alone is a number one necessity for being in tune with your own feelings and taking care of yourself. If you can not enjoy time you spend alone, then you may not be as well adjusted as you might think. You should be able to have time alone without feeling rejected or lonely. Overwhelming feelings of loneliness can be dangerous and if you feel dangerously lonely, please check out this web site http://www.geocities.com/HotSprings/3628/index.html#depression. If you have thoughts or feelings of harming yourself, call someone you can trust or go to your local hospital. When you feel lonely, it is a good time to explore the why. Do you feel insecure about yourself? Are you seeking other people's approval? Is it because you lacked that approval as a child? The history of your loneliness is not the issue, but may help you to realize that there is a problem. Realization is the first step toward more self confidence, self assurance and appreciation of the person that you are. The overcoming of loneliness and appreciation of alone time is the ultimate goal.

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