Ok, this may not be what you want to hear - but you need to know that it not a bad thing, and it really does happen. When you choose one person that you want to spend the rest of your life with, it changes your relationship with the people around you.
Your friends have always been there to listen to your problems and pick you up when you are depressed. They have been there to take you out for margaritas after your big promotion and showed up at 2 Am to tell you about the wonderful evening they just had.
You may not want to change your relationships. Chances are you have told your friends nothing will change. Chances are, it will. Your priorities in life will most likely change with marriage. This is not a bad thing!
You won’t need to call a friend when you come home from work depressed - you’re best friend is waiting for you already. You won’t need to cry on a friend’s shoulder about a bad date - the days of blind dates are behind you. You may find that there is more pleasure in curling up on the couch and watching television than going out dancing with old friends.
How can you maintain these changing relationships? Remember that you are the one who is changing- not your friends. Invite them over for dinner. Make time to go out with out with out your spouse and have some fun with your single girlfriends. Don’t forget to enjoy some of the activities you enjoyed before marriage with your friends. Listen with a generous ear when your friends lament their love lives.
You can do this! The most important aspect of maintaining your friendship will be communication- listen to your friends!
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