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Your pain is still Real

© Laura Wilkinson

I have received so many emails from folks, telling me about their abuse issues, then APOLOGIZING for having those issues. Let me tell you something.

I know as well as anyone how horrible this time is. I have cried more since Sept 11 than I have in some time. Just looking at my children and hubby sets me off, because I am so damned thankful they are HERE and SAFE. I hate to go to work and school, because I am terrified that there is something in Dallas that the BADGUYS want to hit, and I can't protect my babies while they are gone from me. My brother is in the Army Reserves, which means he may be going "somewhere." My dad was a hostage (a human shield) back in Desert Storm, and I am having flashbacks to that time. Every where I look on TV or on the radio it is SCREAMING at me. So, yes, I know how horrible this time is.

However, the fact that our country has been violated and thousands of people are dead does not diminish the pain and the reality of YOUR issues. You are still being abused by a man who claims to love you; you are still very unhappy by the treatment you are being given. There is no excuse for it. You deserve to be treated like a human being, loved, cared for, caressed, hugged, all those wonderful things that come from being in a healthy relationship. I have heard variations of "I feel so selfish complaining about how mean he is to me when so many people are hurting." Yes, lots of people are in pain; so are you. The tragedy in NY and Washington DC did not make YOUR pain go away. Your pain is still with you, every day, every minute. It's not going to go away just because the BADGUYS got a plan together. It's okay to talk about it, to look for answers.

I want to help you find those answers. Let's keep going, keep asking questions, keep supporting and encouraging each other. I am still here, waiting to help. Your pain is real. Your issues are real. That man who said he loves you is still there, showing otherwise by his actions every day. Hang in there, and please, don't apologize for anything.

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