An Action Plan for a Better Marriage

Sometimes it takes that pilgrimmage to gain clarity on the significant issues of life. So much of the time it seems I'm just dealing with the traffic (the busyness) of life and fail to live intentionally.

This time, I came home with an action plan for showing my wife how much I love and appreciate her. Apparently, I hadn't given it a lot of thought before, because as I focused on it, the ideas came fast and furious.

The list was something like this:

1. Include her and her needs in my scheduling considerations. 2. Reduce the amount of social activity in our home ( some weeks there's someone there every night). 3. The ever popular, but ever-neglected weekly date night. 4. A weekly lunch with her ( I drive to her office, I bring the food). 5. Take care of myself for her sake, as well as mine (after all, who wants to be romantic with an out-of-shape middle-aged guy). 6. Cook a few meals each week to give her a break. 7. Manage our personal life so there is less stress for us both. 8. Plan and carry out 4 get-away weekends each year. 9. Pray with her every day.

The deal here isn't that any of these are magic. The deal is that they mean something to my wife. All our spouses are different. But all of them have needs that we miss due to our activity and stresses.

So, what do you think? Is it time for you to draft a marital action plan? Is it time to get REALLY intentional in demonstrating your affection for your spouse in new, creative ways?

Why not set aside some time in the next 24 hours (the sooner, the better) and ask the question: What are some things I can do to make your life easier? What can I do to show my continuing love for you?

Who knows what the answers will be. But it'll open up a whole new avenue for happiness in your marriage.

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