When punishment becomes praise - Page 2© Marilyn Robb
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Dec 11, 2003
It is sad that young people become so conditioned to respond to harsh physical or sometimes mental treatment. I would suggest that you can change this by changing your solution to something much more positive, e.g. a kind word as a reminder, or that the student should say something nice to someone else everytime they are caught, etc. Though this may seem strange at first and may seem like reinforcement of the behaviour, you have observed that the important thing for them is the recognition and the attention they get, which they so crave. And many may then make mistakes just so that they receive some attention.
It may be a good opportunity to use as a teaching moment. Having gained their attention you can then work with them on the real problem, which is the difficulty in speaking another language.
Also you may want to think about getting to the root of the problem that seems to be distress about the language, or the embarrassment associated with speaking a different language, and they may need more help with that. Or it may be a deep need for attention and validation and speaking chinese is just a strategy that is unconsciously used to get that. You may want to fill that need in other ways and this behaviour will be eliminated as the need is filled.
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