Where The Boys Are
you want, but be able to do your research on your prospective date. Meet him later for coffee and get to know him before you go out. Better to be safe than sorry.
Online dating – I’m not a big fan, but only because I’ve encountered some scary individuals online. True, I met one boyfriend online, but the “bad” ones far outweighed this one positive. One person I know married someone she met online. I’m happy to say that union is no longer. He just wasn’t what he seemed to be (are they ever?). If you must, then do so carefully. NEVER: give out your home number, meet him alone or agree to have him pick you up, let him know anything too personal about yourself (where you live, where you work). The Internet, although one of the best things to come along in a long time, has its own horror stories. Don’t become a statistic.
Work – What is that saying, “Don’t play around where you work?” I’ve dated guys from work before. Most of them ended well. One in particular broke my heart and although there were no “scenes”, it made me uncomfortable to see him afterwards, even more disturbing was to see him with another woman. Keep what is business, business and what is personal, personal. If you meet the man of your dreams at work, by all means keep it discreet. It generally looks far worse for the woman than the man.
Now, I know I will hear from those of you with success stories from the very places I’ve warned against. The beauty in writing my own column is that I can give you my point of view, my experiences. Take from it what you deem good, discard the rest.
I’m anxious to hear (please post!!!) new places to meet men that I haven’t listed, and to hear of any happy endings of your own.
Note: For those of you who prefer the female gender, check out my friend Chris' article - "Where the Butches Are" - on Suite101.com.
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