What can I say that you haven't already read or heard elsewhere? If you are in an abusive relationship - get out. It is just that simple. Get out. Do NOT buy into the fatherhood propaganda that your child is "doomed without daddy." Staying for "the sake of the children" or because you believe they "need" a dad is a trap that will consume you AND your children. Do not expose your children to abusive relationships. Children who witness domestic violence are at a far, far greater risk of becoming victims themselves or abusers when they grow up. We desperately need a world with fewer abusers. As a mother you have a responsibility to raise children who do not abuse others.
Don't take crap from a relationship. I see far too many women willing to trade their dignity for some companionship. I can only urge you to treat yourself better than that. Would you stand by and watch someone else treated this way? Make certain that you treat yourself at least as well as you would treat others. Never ever be so desperate for love or companionship that you accept anything less than a relationship that builds you up instead of tearing you down. Take care to get into an equitable relationship. Did you know that recent research has uncovered the fact that the women in abusive relationships are more likely to have a better education than their partner and that this may be a risk factor?
Teach your kids the skills they need to be able to stand on their own two feet, so that they don't feel that desperate need for company. Teach them not to accept abuse from anyone. Teach them that it is not acceptable to be violent or abusive in any relationship.
