Suffer the Little Ones

The one recurring sentiment that I find among children of divorce is guilt. Children will often hold themselves responsible for mommy and daddy not being together anymore. We often see this played out in movies but it never really hits home until you actually see it in a child's eyes. There are feelings of desperation and alienation from peers. Older children often become bitter and angry over their parent's decision to divorce. And let's face it, in this American fast food, microwave, want it yesterday culture we live in, more people than ever are getting divorced and not always for the most noble of reasons. Children have a reason to question and to be bitter. They were given no choice, no vote in their future. Just as Zill pointed out, when it comes to divorce, higher economic status means nothing, except perhaps a more expensive psychologist.

So what's the moral here? Let me offer three L's I think you should embrace when working with children of divorce. Listen to what children have to say-- Learn from what they have to say-- and finally Love them unequivocally. Ultimately, children are resilient little beings who can adapt to a number of situations if they know they are loved.

Until next time..

~mikee

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