For Better, For Worse
"I swear by the moon and the stars in the sky, I'll be there. I swear, I'll be like a shadow by your side. I'll be there. For better, for worse. Till death tears us apart." ~All-4-One.
Sounds familiar? It's a song lyric by All-4-One. It might also what your beloved said romantically to you on your wedding day, or it is what exactly that special someone whispered in your ears last Valentine's day. Have you ever said that to somebody you love? Most of us have, I believe. Consciously or not.
After all, we're a creature that can be so overwhelmed by the idea of somebody loving us so much. The sensation is indescribable.
Talking about romantic love, we often share what we feel about our special someone to him or her directly. That's exactly what a romantic relationship is all about. Sharing our deepest feelings to our most trusted person. Wishing him or her well till life tears us apart.
This sounds totally awesome. Isn't life about sharing, giving and receiving? About loving and caring? Let's wear our thinking cap and set that romantic feeling aside for a while.
Some of us are skeptical about love and relationships, though. We must realize that. Or, perhaps you are one among them? These people don't believe that love can last a long time. With a skyrocketing divorce rate, that's completely understandable. I'm not going to judge anybody or any particular circumstances. I have no right to do that and I wouldn't want to bother myself either. But one thing that I know for sure. I don't worship romantic love. At least, I am learning not to.
We, oftentimes, love others more than we love ourselves. We care about them and we give them as much attention as they need. That's great. That's awesome. Wouldn't it feel extremely good if we can give our loved ones our undivided attention? Making sure that everything about that person all right? Sure. That's our right and privilege as a social being.
We all need to realize, though, that romantic love is not everything. It is true that love is not everything and without love, everything is nothing. I wouldn't want to argue with that.
One thing that I learned the hard way, though, is it is important not to stop loving yourself and paying close attention to your own inner growth. We shouldn't make ourselves suffer when we don't receive the kind of love and attention we have been searching for.
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