Love Heals, Love Defeats
© Jennie S. Bev
It took me my whole life to realize that love doesn't only heal, but defeats as well. The human race has been pampered by the notion of "love that heals all." Romeo and Juliet were willing to die for love. Many others kill themselves in the name of love. For the sake of world peace, for religion, for faith, for family, for health and for various other reasons, love is the single one most prevalent factor. Wars occur to defend the so-called idealisms and religions, the two most beloved things in the world. Sounds romantic so far? Perhaps.
Anything that is overdose doesn't heal, though. Rather, it defeats. The more love one puts in a relationship, for example, the more dependent and attached each other will become. In the long run, it is far than the utopia of a "love land." It will turn into the source of inner conflicts, the most dangerous source of conflict of all.
Attachment and heavy dependency on others defeat and crush one's overall well being, unfortunately. One can feel so meaningless when he or she is away from the external source of love and comfort. Such a dependency defeats one to his or her core being, because choices are recognized as the byproduct of something "larger" than the person him or herself, something that is believed to be "love." This type of "love," unfortunately, is not the love that heals.
When choices are not the byproducts of self-respect for one's self and for others, they place themselves into everlasting "love-seeking" dreams. Dreams for perfection, dreams for the safe heaven. Dreams that are hard to realize, dreams that lead them into the death of personal creativity, individuality and ability to comprehend the world in a genuine way.
However, is there a perfect world in a perfect safe heaven in this world? The answer is simple. Yes, there is. But where it is?
It is within you. Being totally attached and heavily dependent on others won't open this door to the tiny place inside our hearts called inner peace. As it goes without saying, without this inner peace, one is less likely to be self-empowered. Thus, without self-empowerment, being alive is like being tortured. You've better get used to unexplainable sudden sadness and feelings of incompetence, not to mention finding yourself hard to adjust in new environments (regardless of how supportive the new environments are).
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