What You Do Always Counts
If you want a good dose of reality sometime, try this: At both lunch and dinner time, take a few moments to reflect on what you did during the past four hours. Observe not only what you did, but who you were being that sponsered what you did.
For example, let's say I became angry at a co-worker this morning. I might be tempted in my lunch-time reflection to describe the argument as something she caused. As the old saying goes, it takes two to tangle, so healthy reflection on this event would acknowledge that I must have had some part in the argument.
Was I being defensive, grumpy, jealous, petty, or patronizing? Who was I being just before and during the argument? What might have caused my anger? Was it fear, which is generally a sponsor of anger? Does her work threaten me in some way? I must be open to all possibilities to truly benefit from this reflection.
If you actually reflect as I've suggested and do so with an open mind, I think you'll be surprised to realize the wide range of behaviors you exhibit in just a four hour period. And a wide range of behaviors means your states of being ranged widely, too. How much of the time were your behaviors reflecting the person that you really choose to be? How often were you at your best?
In writing this article I began thinking about the percentage of time that my behaviors align with my view of who I choose to be. I asked myself if I more often than not act as my highest self. If I'm making progress toward living my true purpose in life, which is being my highest self, the best that I can be, my behaviors should be largely those that reflect me at my very best. I should be doing highest self things more often than not.
I have been on a spiritual, self-empowerment growth path for several years now. Yet I'm dismayed that what I sometimes do is inconsistent with who I believe I am. Sometimes I act in ways that stem less from my highest self and more from my selfish, inconsiderate, non-aware self. Perhaps I will begin to keep a "who am I being" log, a brief diary of my states of being to sharpen my awareness and consciousness. Perhaps you will want to do the same.
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