History Lessons: Part one


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Many months and many moons ago, we delved into of the issues of chemistry, as it applies to relationships, of course. This week and next, we'll travel into another educational genre by tackling the concept of history, again as it relates to relationships.

This first part of the series will concentrate on the basics: what partners in new relationships should know/understand about each other. Any 90's couple (specifically new couples) must put importance on really getting to know one another. It's vital for potential and just beginning partnerships to be smart and informed in modern societies. This doesn't need to be an stressful or unnatural question-answer, interview-like forum, at all. The goal is to not be invasive, but rather a bonding method, filled with pre-intimate sharing, openness, and true caring. Approaching a partner's history should be a non-judgmental, honest, and enlightening experience of discovery. Make it into more of a whimsical "Truth or Dare" game -- sharing only the truth for this round, anyway!!

Let's begin with the general and light-hearted explorations. These are appropriate and geared toward early stages of relationships--the forming moments of getting to know each other. Here's a list of what you should know/understand about a mate before "getting serious."

General background facts: (starting from the most basic)

  • name
  • address
  • phone number
  • age
  • status (single, divorced, etc)
  • family
  • any roommates
  • any pets
  • past relationships
  • interests
  • hobbies
  • employment
  • beliefs
  • illnesses/ medical conditions
  • religious affiliations
  • any criminal records
  • dreams/goals
  • passions
  • causes
  • first love
  • childhood

    For added fun, tell each other your:

  • most embarrassing moment
  • accomplishment most proud of
  • stupidest thing ever did
  • craziest thing ever did
  • most adventurous thing every did
  • weaknesses
  • quirks
  • strengths
  • fears
  • pet peeves
  • one thing would change about past
  • one thing would change about present
  • what would like 5-10 years from now to be like

    And discover each partner's favorite:

  • movie
  • song
  • color
  • author
  • book
  • musician/band
  • style of music
  • poem
  • quote
  • cartoon character
  • TV show
  • meal
  • dessert
  • season
  • sport
  • restaurant
  • vacation spot
  • flavor of ice cream

    On a serious note, if your instincts about a potential mate make you question his/her honesty, by all means, get the facts before getting further involved. Safety is always the top priority, especially if the initial meeting occurred over the Internet, through a dating service, or from a personal ad. Some options for checking out someone's background include investigating: criminal records, motor vehicle history, National Identifiers (to verify name, addresses, etc.), or civil filing (to discover any legal issues on the person). For some professional, on-line, secure services, try the links below:

  • DateSmart.com--get a confidential basic or marital background search by the pros at "In-Case." Their motto is "if you date...investigate."
  • Who Is He & She --background investigations, personal profiles, etc, performed to ensure your safety. A lower priced service, the professionas here advise to "be smart and safe."
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