Scenario: You come to the realization that you no longer feel passionate about your partner. The *sparks* were definitely there in the beginning stages of the relationship, but lately have become rather "ho-hum." What do you do? Is there hope?
As last week's article stressed, true chemistry between a couple, isn't a forced or created act. It's a resonance based on two individual's complementary vibrations. However, as Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D. points out, "Sometimes the chemistry disappears because you and your partner are truly growing in separate directions... If (you) begin to resonate on very different levels, you will not feel the same attraction for each other that you once did...You stop feeling attracted to your partner because the relationship stops working." If being in such a relationship gets to the point where one or both partner(s) become resentful of the other, can no longer find any common ground, or lacks the conviction to make a change, it may well be time to end the relationship. When sense of self, identity, or purpose within the bond is gone, it's simply no longer a healthy situation.
Rest assure, if you're not in that hopeless, worst case situation, and there once were "fireworks," there quite possibly can be again. Time simply may have given way to poor habits, including communication break downs. With a joint commitment, these blocks can be uncovered and worked through. Adding fuel can even re-spark the passion of a flickering flame. "Practicing small, random acts of romance is one of the best things you can do to keep love alive," according to clinical psychologist/author Doreen Virtue. These simple acts can keep your relationship fresh and your bond close. The object is simply to find ways, even little ones, every day to show you care and appreciate your mate. In this way, romantic magic can become part of your routine, instead of an occasional aside. Why not view romance as a fun, rewarding necessity to your schedule? Chances are, being consistently considerate will also bring out the same in your mate.
~Try using some of these "romantic revitalizers" as new and different ways of expressing your endearing love.
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