Power Plays

Is there a place in romantic relationships for drama, such as role -playing, even dominance and submissiveness? There can be, if both partners are open, caring, and willing to explore their sexual fantasies. Many people, both men and women, find the concept of releasing sexual power highly evocative. Even those who are in power-driven careers or heads of households by day, may very naturally find their mind wandering to scenes of being totally 'taken', of being ravished and available for their lover's purely selfish pleasures.

Now, let me state that I'm in no way referring to any forms of cruelty, no pain inducing or demoralizing acts which is characterized in the larger, more sadistic realm. What I am referring to and suggesting, is including concepts of role playing between consenting adults where one partner agrees to sexually dominate the other. Even moderate forms of bondage or restriction can be part of the scene, where the dominator assumes free reign over his/her partner's body.

Please keep in mind that there should still be a high level of trust and respect for each other, going into such an experience. If approached lovingly, this can be a highly erotic and stimulating avenue for a committed couple. The crucial element here is to be on the same page as your mate. Before experimenting with any such roles, it is vital to have an open discussion on the issue. Both must be in understanding of what the other feels comfortable trying and how far they are willing to go with the acts.

Another advisable consideration is to establish a code word or signal before beginning, something that you both can use at any time to change the actions. Say one partner makes an order for something the submissive role-player doesn't feel right about...that person can feel free to stop or switch to something different, without interrupting or ruining the fun. There should be no guilt associated with doing so, not by either participant. If something doesn't feel right for one of you, it simply can't be mutually enhancing. Both "players" should feel turned on by the experience for it to be an erotically-ideal adventure.

With all those preliminaries in place, feel free to unwind and open to the possibilities of power role-playing. To get serious, here are some miscellaneous suggestions/considerations:

Consider entering/beginning the adventure on a date. Perhaps, choose a night when you and your mate are out for dinner. Move into the bar for some drinks, either before or after the meal. Surprise your partner and let him/her know what you are feeling and what you have in mind. Maybe whisper to him/her how you want to possess his/her body tonight...or that you crave him/her to take yours for whatever they desire...that you don't want to "make love" this particular night, but instead want to just have sex with him/her, to own and pleasure yourself with his/her body for hours!! Try that and watch those eyes perk up!!

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