People have different satisfaction needs, especially concerning sex. Some regard sex on a predominantly physical level, while others associate it as a spiritual experience. Research shows that more women than men desire the spiritual connections as part of a truly fulfilling relationship. This soulful love is sparked by chemistry between partners.
According to relationship expert/author Barbara De Angelis, "Sexual chemistry is a kind of resonance...the energetic vibration that occurs when a person of one frequency comes into contact with a similar frequency. We experience this sensation in different ways, one of which is sexual attraction or energy." (from Are You The One For Me?) These so called vibrations are simply the kind of inner and outer makeup (body image, feelings, emotions, spirituality, etc.) of each partner. Thus, when a couple shares similar "vibes" they are attracted to one another (physically, emotionally, sexually, spiritually). The result/reaction of their combined energy fields can create explosive chemistry.
Keep in mind that the chemistry is based upon who you both really are — not who either or both could become. Don't allow yourself or your mate to fall into a self-induced trap of, "If he/she or I change this one thing, we could be great together. Happily ever after simply doesn't work that way. Never, I repeat, NEVER assume someone, even yourself, will change or become something they just are not. Too many of us get caught up in the way it could be and waste precious years of our lives avoiding what isn't going to miraculously change. Sure, there are rare occasions when a person does dramatically alter his/her life for the better. The point is, however, that it's not healthy to rely on change to bring two people closer. Soulful, happy love can exist for everyone of us. All we need to do is be ourselves and stay open to the "vibes."
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