Extending the Past as a "Present"


Since last week's October Romance Calendar noted that this is Family History Month, this week's theme is dedicated to bridging the past with the present in the realm of love.

Bring your mate back into your history, including him/her now in parts of your life he/she missed out on the first time around. This can be a wonderfully connective, even restorative, way to show devotion and commitment between special someones.

How can you extend your past into your present relationship? Show your partner who you were, where you've come from, and what made you who you are today. This concept can be totally sexy, very intimate, and a downright precious gift directly from your heart and soul. Basically just think of ways to bring your lover into your history. Take him/her back in time, to your roots, your heritage. The message you will be sending, is that your mate is important enough to even extend his/her presence into the parts of your life that s/he wasn't able to be included in.

Examples:

  • Show/share your baby albums and childhood pictures or videos

  • Exchange mementos such as favorite childhood book, stuffed animal, hobby, game, etc.

  • Take your partner to the house and/or neighborhood (maybe even elementary or high school) of your youth.--Take a walk around the block if family isn't still living in the actual home

  • Create a day trip to your favorite spots as a child--zoo, carnival, ballpark, playground, etc. (Be sure to include stories and memories, along the way)

  • Take your mate on a date...to a beloved college hangout (bar, club, ice cream shop, coffee shop, whatever)

  • Recreate a private version of your high school prom or dance...rent or dig out an old tux or evening gown or do a semi-formal event...buy a corsage/lapel rose...play your "theme song" or tunes from the year...put up a strobe light, streamers and balloons...

  • Rewrite your first date, with the twist of substituting your current partner into the scene this time! Rent the movie or visit the place you went on your first date...Make your parnter feel like your "first love", even if s/he wasn't.

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