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Heart and Soul

© Michele KayD

It's so often that couples are said to be linked by their hearts. A loving relationship needs to also be a merging of the two souls, as well. Harmonious partnerships stem from internal, rather than external connections.

As John Gray notes in his book, How to Get What You Want and Want What You Have: A Practical and Spiritual Guide to Personal Success, "You have the power to change how you feel, regardless of circumstances in the outer world. To do this, you must remember again and again that although it seems like the outer world is making you unhappy, it is an illusion. By looking within and finding love, joy, confidence, and peace, you gain the power to attract and create in your life what you want." This can be applied to personal relationships, of course.

The first step is to identify what you want in your life and within a potential or existing relationship. That doesn't mean superficial qualities, but the deeper, soul-filling kind of needs and wants, the inward passion which is essential to experiencing true happiness. Once you begin to "listen" your soul's guidance, once you vow to trust and honor your inner desires, you can begin to bring about those positive results into your world.

Ask yourself (and then possibly write them out) what is the most important need in you life, in your relationship? Is it security, stability, passion, trust, companionship? Are there any small steps you could take today to begin moving toward fulfilling or refueling those areas?

"Relationships as we have known them are over," states Daphne Rose Kingma as she refers to the modern day mismatch from "typical/traditional" couplehood. Ms. Kingma goes on, in her book, The Future of Love, to further address how these various modern type of relationships "point to love beyond boundaries...love which can actually be experienced."

The soul is the true heart of intimacy. Use is wisely, get familiar with it, become intimate with the fundamental desires and needs it possesses.

Literature Links:

How to Get What You Want and Want What You Have: A Practical and Spiritual Guide to Personal Success ~by John Gray

The Future of Love: The Power of the Soul in Intimate Relationships ~By Daphne Rose Kingma

Discovering Your Soul Missions ~by Linda Brady and Evan St. Lifer

A Handbook for Finding Love on a Spiritual Path ~by Charlotte Kasl, Ph. D.

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