You're probably unsure as to how you may proceed in giving her the support she needs at this time, and you may even dread the intense reactions she may be displaying. She isn't crazy, so don't treat her as if she is. What she is going through is a natural response to the trauma she experienced. I know that you doubt your ability to be able to do anything to help, but believe me--you can. Here are some suggestions that will guide you in supporting your loved one after she has been assaulted.
1. Educate yourselves about the common reactions to rape because there are emotional reactions as well as physical symptoms, which accompany sexual assault. You need to be prepared. Feel free to contact your local rape crisis center for literature and/or counseling.
2. Believe her experience without question. Any doubt YOU may feel will be evident to her, and will cause more damage to her self-esteem.
3. Respect the fear that she feeling. It is real, and natural.
4. Be there for her, unconditionally.
5. Put your own feelings aside and prepare to deal with them somewhere besides in front of her.
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