My little mirrors

A very interesting thing is happening now that both the boys are old enough to be verbally expressive. There seems to be a competition to see who mom likes best. I know that this is just a normal stage of being a child but for me it is the first time two people are actually vying for my attention. I do not want either of them to end up feeling as if they are loved in any sort of way that can be measured. How do you keep one child from feeling favored over another? I adore each of them for so many different reasons and yet couldnt imagine my life without them in it as actively as each one is. I do find that they are happier if each gets some time alone with me each day. Now that I am not careing for them in that basic food/dry/comfort way of a baby, it seems that something as simple as mixing a bowl of cornbread or folding the clothes together is enough of a one on one that makes them each feel special. Gabriel insists on helping in some way and Nathanial insists on questioning life in general for his time alone with me. I can read my behavior towards them by their behavior as well. Lately, we are overwhelmed with getting organized with opeining the business. although I am portable with the laptop and can multi task pretty well, my concentration is not always there to pick up the little things that make up the ebb and flow of emotions that are my boys. I find myself blindsided with a tantrum that seemed to come out of nowhere or someone storming off with a huff and I am left wondering what happened. Those are the times when I have to stop no matter what I am doing and just 'be' for 5 minutes with whomever is having a hard time. It works wonders to restore peace throughout the household and we all are happier that way.

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