Time Out For Parents

Rearing children can be a tumultuous roller coaster ride, which can leave you gasping for breath. One moment you are smiling at your precious little one, the next minute you are cursing the pint-sized monster for jarring you out of a peaceful slumber. Parenting requires constant patience, endless energy and a good sense of humor. If parenting a healthy baby takes so much, how much more effort does a child with special needs demand? Parents of preemies belong in a special category for their extra endurance and super strength. Yet, so many of us are exhausted, frustrated and worried. To cure, or at least alleviate, these constant pressures, it is essential that parents take time out for themselves. The stress of bearing and rearing a preemie can get overwhelming, straining relationships and breaking marriages. To avoid these pitfalls, try a few of these techniques:

-Spend time alone. Arrange to have your spouse, a family member or a friend watch the child(ren) while you take a half hour or so for yourself. Take a nap, read a good book, exercise, pray/meditate, walk in the park; do whatever makes you feel relaxed and centered.

-Spend time together as a couple. Arrange to have a babysitter watch your children while you and your spouse dine out, catch a movie, window shop or just spend time together talking. If your child requires your supervision, spend his/her naptimes with your spouse.

-Talk about it. If you are feeling frustrated or worried, discuss the problem with your spouse, a family member, a close friend or anyone whom you feel that you can trust. You can also write your feelings in a journal or a diary. A listening ear may be just what you need.

-Laugh. Kids are funny; there's no doubt about it. Allow yourself to laugh at their antics, even if you are fuming inside. Write down the funny things they say or do in a journal, so that they can read about it a few years down the road.

-Create lasting memories. Start habits and traditions that will give your child positive memories. Hug, kiss, laugh, play, smile, read, walk, run, cuddle, talk, explore . . . there are so many wonderful things you can help your child experience.

What other methods do you use to help cope with the daily stresses of parenthood? Please share your answers in the discussion section.

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