"Baby Dancing": Sex and Trying to Conceive
It is currently cycle day 11. I have just spent the last half hour reviewing charts over the past 6 cycles. The time has come once again to evaluate, plot, scheme and strategize to optimize our chances of pregnancy. I tip my hat to those of you who are able to trust in your innate desires to lead you down the natural path to conception and pregnancy. I however, am convinced that if we followed this method my husband would be well spent by the time ovulation occurred.
There are a few things we take into consideration when we are planning our sexual calendar. The first is to determine an estimated time of ovulation based on history. In my case, this fairly simple. I have ovulated on the 13th or 14th day of my cycle consistently for as long as I can remember.
Secondly we consider how to space out our love making to allow my husband to replenish a good supply of healthy sperm. There are varying opinions on this matter, but we have decided that two full days is most favorable.
Lastly, we make a point of taking full advantage of all days that I am experiencing quality fertile cervical fluid of an egg white consistency. With all of this in mind, we usually end up having sex every other day, until the (egg) white flag drops that tells us we are on the final lap at which point we pick up the pace a little.
Fertility info suggests that the best sexual positions to use to achieve pregnancy would be the good old-fashioned missionary, or rear entry positions. Both positions allow for deep penetration, allowing the sperm to be deposited right at the portal of the cervix. A pillow under the woman's bottom also helps, as does her remaining horizontal for a half hour after orgasm.
Lubricants are hostile to sperm and are not to be used. Saliva is also apparently hostile which can severely limit oral foreplay if this is a concern. The more one researches, the more one finds that there are a ton of rules to be following or things to avoid.
So the question arises: "Between having to schedule intercourse and following all the rules of play, what happens to love-making when a couple is trying to conceive?"
The pressures of trying to conceive can certainly take its toll on a relationship. Often it is the men who complain of losing spontaneity and feeling disconnected.
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