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When The Hurt Doesn't Go Away

© Mischele Lewis

Losing a baby in pregnancy, no matter how far along you are, is not only a physically draining experience but most certainly a mentally draining one. The trauma and overwhelming sadness that can consume a woman after a miscarriage is unlike any other type of grief out there. In some women, the sadness and depression that follows just doesn't subside, no matter what wonderful events may insue such as a following pregnancy.

I have a friend who lost her second pregnancy in a row due to miscarriage over a year ago. She has never been able to move on from her losses although she does have an 8 year old son. She has stopped working, sunk into a deep depression, and her marriage is falling apart. She desperately wants to have another baby, but her doctor told her that it is highly unlikely that she will be able to conceive again. She has no energy to look for help and they cannot afford counseling.

Like my friend, there are countless numbers of women who lose their pregnancy and just can't seem to beat the sadness. The gamut of emotions are running too high and put off daily responsibilities regardless of importance. They wonder how their innocent little baby can be taken from them. They wonder if it was their fault. Although it usually isn't they carry this guilt around with them. They don't eat, are unfocused at work, neglect daily responsibilities, are constantly tired or feeling run down, have little momentum, hardly leave their houses and avoid social situations and settings.

These people need professional help and there are even support groups all across the country and even online. One great place is SHARE (www.sharenationaloffice.com) or SHARE Atlanta (www.shareatlanta.org). Its a wonderful place for families to talk about their losses and perhaps gain some help. Another is MEND (www.mend.org) which is a Christian not-for-profit corporation whose purpose is to reach out to those who have lost a child due to miscarriage, stillbirth, or early infant death. Many local hospitals also offer support to parents and family members in the form of UNITE, SHARE or some other subsequent pregnancy support group. They usually meet once or twice a month and are a great resource to talk with other parents who are going through or have gone through the same thing. Others choose to go to their place of worship and seek solace in speaking to the head of their church.

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